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help? I need someone to talk too

Nakka
Community Member
I suffer from anxiety and depression and lately it has started getting really bad, im to ashamed to tell anyone let alone go to a doctor because im one of those people that keep everything inside and just get over it (tell people I don't feel feelings).

I tell myself im just imaging it and that im fine and to get over it.. (feeling makes me feel weak aand embrassed) I have completly isolated myself and feel alone. Even self medication. What can II do? 

Btw (im a 20yr ofemale)

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Nakka
Community Member
Hi "help me"

Looks like we are in the same boat then. I wish you luck, you can do it! I may not know you but im always here to chat, can help one another through this process of acceptance and admittance.  Feel free to email me if you want to chat about how your going.

Good luck 🙂

geoff
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

dear Nakka, I now understand why you can't talk to people, it's because not so much the alcohol but the drugs, because when you start to tell them their reaction wouldn't be good, but hey we need something to numb this awful feeling.

I drank alcohol while I was depressed and nobody liked it that's why I became a cupboard drinker, because if they found it they would pour it all out.

One psychologist wouldn't talk to me unless I stopped drinking, so I only saw her twice, the problem being that she didn't understand why I had to drink, so I would put her at the bottom of the list, never to be seen again.

What sort of psych was she, certainly not helpful, she was not open to any of my problems, and isn't that what are meant to do.

Any sessions should be about our depression first, not about drinking, because when we can overcome our illness then maybe the drinking will ease up, and that's what happened with me, and that's what you should say to your psych when you decide to go and see them.

The more you tell us the better idea we can get of you. L Geoff. x

 

Dear Geoff,

Yes, there's that "if you don't come every week I'll report you to the Medicare people and you'll be banned from further counselling" attitude with some of the more prissy counsellors.  Probably the ones that had parents who banned toys and stuck them on the top cupboard for a detention period.   Who cares what you talk about ?  The main thing is that you're there.

Adios, David.

PS Tell me more of this 'cupboard drinking'.   Lol.  You keep me sane.

dear David Charles, my friend, cupboard drinking, lol.

Well we owed an 8 acre property so I built a large garage and I had several different hiding spots, so if I was caught out no worries because there were other spots to hide the alcohol.

These spots were never in the house, although I did have some in the refrig, but they were behind or in boxes or even under the garage and covered up with something, it sort of reminds me of 'one flew over the cuckoo nest', ' the only way Nurse Ratchet can keep him in the cage is to completely destroy him--but despite the fact that she destroyed him, he still won because he could not be contained.' Geoff.

Nakka
Community Member
Geoff
Yes, iit's just our way of numbing how we feel and tying to feel "normal" once I have a drink or take drugs it makes me feel better for that period of time, really im just tricking myself but anything to nnumb this feeling.  With telling people I cant because Iguess the thought makes me feel stupid and weak. I dono?  It scares me I guess. Like I guess I think that people will tthink about me how the depression makes me think about me? II don't kknow how to explain it.

Yup I understand that so feel free to ask questions and ill answer. 

Haze4k
Community Member
Hey I really understand I've been dealing with so much of it lately myself due to becoming homeless and medical issues I'm not sure when you sent this as I couldn't see a date but I'm a 20yro male it you would like to chat