Friends and mental health - no one to talk to

[Elle___]

Hey, I'm in Year 11 at school and I've been struggling with depression for a long time now, and I am now on antidepressants. They are helping, but I just feel like I'm getting bad again..

My three closest friends are now all in relationships and they've forgotten about me, and the guy who I would usually talk to when I needed is now in a relationship and mainly ignores me. It's not that I feel alone because I'm not with anyone, I just feel like everyone's moved on and forgotten me. I know they are all amazing people, I mean I wouldn't be here without them, but I just don't know what to do anymore... I'm down and it's worse now that I feel I have no one. I really am just so tempted to start fresh and move to my grandparents house..

[quirkywords]

Elle, welcome to the forum. This is a friendly supportive and caring place.

I can understand how you feel that your friends have forgotten you now they are all in relationships.

At the start of a relationship people sometimes forget their other friends as they only have eyes literally for the their friend.

Could you send them a text or email and explain how you would like to catch up with them. Sometimes people get so caught up in their new relationship they do forget their friends. I am sure they are unaware they are doing this.

Would moving involve going to a new school?

What do you think you would need to so , so you don't feel so alone and forgotten? Have you spoken the a counsellor at school.?

It is hard maintain friendships and I am glad you have written your first post.

Many reading this will relate to you as I do, and you are not alone.

Keep posting here when you want to.

Quirky

[Lee lee 73]

Hi Elle_,

Firstly can I say, you come across as a very mature and wise young lady. Cudos to you Elle_ 💪👊.

As with Quirky, I can also relate.

I'm wondering, is there any sport or hobby you have always wanted to take up but haven't done as yet? It's important to keep doing things that interest you and doing something new can sometimes be easier.

I know I'm not young but I saw your post and felt for you. I hope it was ok for this old fart to butt in...

Take good care Elle_

Lee lee73

[MsPurple]

Hi Elle and welcome

Thought I'd just pop in and see how you are going. Quirky and Lee Lee have given you some great suggestions and offered great support so I'll try not repeat

It is good you have seen a doctor to get on medication as deemed appropriate for you. I do wonder if you also see a therapist/counsellor/psychologist? I ask because antidepressants can help, but they are not a cure, they are a tool. I found that I couldn't get a handle of my anxiety from medication alone, I needed to getting support from a psychologist and someone to talk to that isn't related or personally involved in my life.

I know I have wanted to just over away and start again. But sometimes we need to approach our issues and deal with them. Sometimes when we move our issues move with us. And I have moved towns a few times recently (for uni as my course wasn't offered in my home town, and then for a job) and I know although it can be good to start again the anxiety does follow if I don't manage it and do self care/therapy.

Hope this has been helpful. I am an open book if you want to ask us any questions feel free