Hi ther friend in need,
Thanks for sharing and having such care and concern for your friend.
Im going to have to rely on Beyondblue to edit this as they see fit, because as much as I know that self harm shouldnt be discussed in graphic detail here, I can hear how much you want to help your friend.
I want to start by saying I have been in your frien's shoes for many years. The following are some of the things I learned along the way.
Acknowledge that its happening without judgement, theres no point at thi stage telling her that you dont like it and want her to stop, she will probably just close off from you
Talk about it by asking gentle questions. "I can see that you find harming yourself helpful, are there any other reasons why you think you do it. Im here to listen if you need."
Ascertain if any wounds need proper dressings or medical attention
Find out if she would like to speak to someone about it. Perhaps a chat line, GP, counsellor...
You could also let her know that its very common, she's not alone and that many people have found relief in alternate less invasive measures. Using a rubber band to flick the wrist, holding ice, renaming selffharm, I refer to it as "I so want to kick a football!" Suggest that she can tell you whenever the urge comes on
Its in your friends best interest to seek help so I suggest if she doesnt proceed with this herself that you inform her that you will feel compelled to seek help for her.
Let us know how you get on, and if in any doubt, or you think the self harm could be a suggestion of suicide please contact the Beyondblue call centre.
AGrace
