Feelings of inadequacy

[Liam007]

Hi all, so I have something else I want to ask. I know that there is not right or wrong answer. I just want to get some opinions on this.

 I've been like feeling like I'm inadequate compared to other people around me. I feel like I lack a lot of the positives they have. If a counselor says to me "Tell me 5 positives about yourself" I just go "Uh.....um...I don't know, I'm not sure what my positives are".

I also remember a counselor giving me test, it was one that had answers like "All the time"  "sometimes" "never" etc. I remember getting a fairly dreadful score, self-esteem below average, depression and anxiety above average.

Anyway, it came to a question which read "I'm just as good as the other kids", I circled NEVER without a single second of hesitation. It was something I didn't take long to think about, people around try to tell me that I have such good quotes, but I feel like I avoid taking compliments feeling like I'll let it get to my head and I'll be in my own little world going on and on about flawless, I don't want to feel like I'm being arrogant about myself, thinking too highly of myself or pretending I'm flawless.

 So I'm wondering, is it possible I'm doing that or is that I'm having such negative thoughts about things lately that thoughts about myself have been effected?

Sorry to make another post so soon

[white knight]

Hi Liam

Feeling arrogant about yourself can have positives- you could sell cars for a living, have regular dates with women with the "gift of the gab" etc

But it wont be YOU. Being yourself should be idolised by you. We are all born different. Some dont have the slim gene, the attractive gene, the confidence gene. Better to accept that than trying all your life to be - someone else.

Google "Maharaji the perfect instrument" and watch several others of his to learn to appreciate yourself.

After all....the most attractive, capable, confident person on earth still eats, talks and uses the dunny.

There is a very fine line between them and us.

tony WK

[Chris_B]

Hi guys,

I'm locking this thread as it's covering similar ground to some existing threads on this topic already - it'd be great if you could add to those. Helps keep the place tidy and leaves room for others to start their own threads!

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