Feeling so alone and have no friends

[searching1]

I am an 18 yr old first year uni student (I am girl), who is finding it really difficult to make any friends, because I am quite shy and have anxiety. Even in my major subject I feel like everybody already had their own circle of friends and I am not welcome. I have tried talking to a few people, but they seem disinterested in chatting further than smalltalk. It is honestly upsetting to me and makes me feel really down, as I cant seem to make friends in all my classes. I talk to my family and it helps alot, but they can't be with me at uni when im alone. Also my old friends went to different uni's and no matter how many times i try to contact them, they do not answer back. Please if anyone (escpecially people who live in Perth) wants to become friends, please dont hesitate to contact me further on here - I am a genuinely nice person :). I cannot keep on going on like this without any friends in and outside of uni. Thank you for reading x

[white knight]

Hi welcome

This forum is anonymous so it isn't the place to find the type of friend you are seeking, however, I have some ideas.

See its like looking for a used car. You enter a car yard but the cars there are not suitable. But you don't leave the car yard in search of the ideal car...you remain there still looking, hoping the right car is there yet all along it isn't.

You need to visit other car yards. So you need to expand your view of where people will meet to seek out such friends. Sport- volleyball, badminton, table tennis...Hobbies, Dancing groups etc. Keep busy, don't swell on your sadness. Then when you do talk to a classmate you'll have plenty to say about your activities.

It's hard for you but you have to make this effort.

Good luck Tony WK

[searching1]

Thank you White Knight for your thoughtful help and support, funny enough I was thinking about joining a volleyball club near me and your suggestion has definitely encouraged me to sign up 🙂