feeling like ive wasted my teenage years

[Hutcho201]

words cannot describe how much i absolutly despise being 21 i feel so horribly old i just wish i could have my wasted teenage years back then id probably do things differently it sucks because i never really got to be a teenager i never went to parties i never had friends that i could fet into mischief and reckless behaviour with i never got to experience teenage dating hahahahaha damn ive never really even been out clubbing ive only been out once and that was like a year or so ago i feel like im so behind on life experience that i actually envy everyone else my age because they've actually lived life and had all the experiences iv'e craved since i was 13 years old i also hate listening to older people in there 40s and 50s talk about how there youth and adolescent hood where the best years of there life when mine was the exact opposite i also hate watching coming of age teen movies because to me there a reminder of what iv'e missed out on in life i just wish god would give me a second chance im sure alot of you people on here could relate to how im feeling in a way..

[stormcloudz]

Hey Hutcho

Just wanted to say hello, and yep, a lot of people will relate in some way...

It sounds like your adolescence sucked, and you didn't have the chance to enjoy it. What was going on for you? Lonely, family problems, isolated, depressed?

I'm really sorry you had a hard time, and glad you posted here to talk about it. Other people will also relate and it will help them to know that they weren't the only ones....

I don't know if it helps, but for lots of people the 20s (or later) are better than the teens - more independence, not stuck with the school crowd, more options.

[startingnew]

Hi Hutcho

i can relate so much to your post! never done half the things teenagers would usually do and im also 21 it can make us feel quite isolated and alone huh. i dont think its ever to late to start living your life though. the things youve listed like clubbing- is that something you want to do? could you and friends go out clubbing one night?

when you say 'you never got to be a teenager' is there a reason behind that ie trauma, strict families?

[loz-grace]

Definitely can relate!

I was a complete outcast in high school. I used to sit with my 'friends' in complete silence at lunch, feeling like I couldn't relate to anything anyone was experiencing. In my final two years I was constantly feeling anxious at having to do things alone all the time, though I did adjust. I told myself that I was an old soul and that I didn't want to waste time getting wasted. In the end I had no one to invite to my 18th.

Things changed when I left my stuffy private girl's school. I finally met people I enjoyed being with, wasted or otherwise. I have had some of the best and craziest nights with people in their 20s to people in their 60s.

Age doesn't mean a thing. If people are looking back at their teens with that kind of fondness there's something they're not doing right now.

[zoltron]

Hi Hutcho! I'm 17 and I feel the exact same way. I've never really been popular and I don't have any close friends. I have in the last year expanded my social circle because of different classes in year 11 and now year 12. I'm so anxious about leaving school and what I'll do that I don't really enjoy the moment I'm in if that makes any sense?? The "friends" I do have don't really know that much about me, though they would claim to know everything and they can't wait to leave school so we can catch up every day (no thank you!!). I haven't had any experience with dating or anything like that (heck, I don't even talk to boys!!) so I understand that too. Maybe try to join some local community groups and meet some friends there. I actually participate in a program at school where once a week a group of us go to a local nursing home and give the ladies a foot spa. I get on well with all of them (my bestie is Kathleen and she's 101!!) and I love hearing about their lives and experiences. Just something to think about anyway.

zoltron xx

[Padfoot02]

Hey Hutcho,

I can relate and im only 15. I basically pressed the skip button when it came to my early childhood. Yeah, you know the years between 7 and 13, i missed out on being able to be a kid in thise years and i feel like ive alreadt lost my teenage years. Stuff like arties doesnt really matter though, because while your "friends" were off getting hammered and losing brain cells, you kept yours in tact.

Dont beat yourself up over the superficial things man, you're still young. You can still go out and party and go clubbing and all that fun stuff. And lets face it, dating during the teen years is harder than dating as an adult. I cant drive anywhere. I cant buy stuff for my girlfriend. Its all good man.

From Padfoot.