Ex and Best friend

[_liv___]

Hey guys,

I understand that this may be a confrontational topic but is something that i desperately need to get off my chest.

A night ago i met up with my ex (who i am still friends with dispite originally ending on bad terms) and my best friend. we went back to her house and we were having fun untill they started kissing in front of me.

We talked about it and she said that she would not have done it if i had given her a sign but i don’t believe this. This is due to the fact that she told me that she regrets what she did while telling my ex that she wants to do it again (he messaged me about it telling me this).

I am scared of confrontation and do not see myself working up the nerve to tell her i don’t like it, even tho i thought it was obvious i wouldn’t.

Anyone have any ideas on what I should do?

[Mk2692]

Hi liv,

Welcome to the forums and thanks for reaching out. Sorry to hear that you are going through a very difficult situation. I understand that this person is your ex, but I think it was inappropriate for your best friend to kiss him even if he was interested. I think if she is your best friend and this is bothering you, then I think you should confront her and talk about it. If she denies it and plays the victim or doesn't take responsibility, then I don't think she has your best interest at heart. I know this is a very difficult situation and it is hard to confront her and you may be worried to loose her, but if you don't you will end up hurting yourself. Hope this helps.

[On The Road]

Hi Liv,

Thanks for sharing this. sorry to hear that. I can see this is upsetting I mean she's your best friend. In my personal opinion, if I were you, I would try to calm myself down first: " it is hurting, but, to some extent, this is mainly their business if they have feelings for each other, and I can't let this bring me down". And then start to think about a solution (it's hard to be that rational I know🙁 you two are best friends) I think since you and your ex are still on good terms, you may also talk about this to your ex, and If you want you can also talk with your other friends. At the end of the day, it is something about your feelings and your best friend's behaviour, as Like Mk2692 said, it is better to clarify this with her, when you feel comfortable and confident.