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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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Guest_2503 Should I have agreed to go to formal with him?
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I've just been asked over text by a friend to attend his formal at a 'prestigious' private boys school. I found the contents of the text rude initially, and declined, however, I fear I may have overreacted and am worried that I made the wrong decisio... View more

I've just been asked over text by a friend to attend his formal at a 'prestigious' private boys school. I found the contents of the text rude initially, and declined, however, I fear I may have overreacted and am worried that I made the wrong decision. He's quite a shy guy with a strict overbearing mother so most of our friendship has been via email. He's a decent guy, if extremely sheltered and a bit egotistical. We both go to decently ranked schools, despite me going to an academically selective school, he's always seemed to look down at me and think that I'm stupid. He has also made passive-aggressive comments in the past about how I'm broke eg I asked him for restaurant recommendations in the suburb he lives in and he suggests place known to be dirt cheap, saying, "it's quite expensive so I'm not sure if you'll be able to afford it." Back to the situation at hand, so he texts me to ask if I'm interested in attending his formal, to which I say yes. Note that he asks if I want to attend, not specifying with him. Then he texts "Umm okay" with the date of the formal. I then say that I will let him know if I am free on that date as I am currently walking my dog and away from my calendar. To which he says "to be honest, I didn't expect you to reply so soon, since we have HSC exams coming up". My immediate reaction was confusion followed by annoyance as I did view it as a backhanded insult- as if suggesting that I wasn't studying enough because I was able to reply to his texts or suggesting I was wrong for walking my dog instead of studying. I genuinely cannot tell if he is just not used to social interaction or if he was making a pass at me (note: the first time he went out without his parents was when he was 17, his mother barely allows him to go out, I have asked to hang in the past and he has always said that his mother won't let him, we have never spent time together outside of church events (because his mother won't let us) and a few years he invited me to another formal before un-inviting me a day later because his mum "won't let him date" I can't tell if he genuinely wants to attend with me or if I'm just a sort of "trophy" for him to bring (at this private boys school, if a boy attends without a date he will receive lots of judgement) my friends tell me that he probably wouldn't look after me at the formal and that we would probably sit in silence the whole time. I keep overthinking whether or not I should have accepted, should I try to fix things?

GenGeneration I don't know who I am anymore
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I'm 22 and MTF, I recently had SRS and now I feel more lost than ever. Like what is the point anymore? Like what do I do now? It feels like I've hit a dead end. I'm not really attracted to anyone and I don't think anyone is attracted to me, so I don'... View more

I'm 22 and MTF, I recently had SRS and now I feel more lost than ever. Like what is the point anymore? Like what do I do now? It feels like I've hit a dead end. I'm not really attracted to anyone and I don't think anyone is attracted to me, so I don't know. I'm kind of scared of men because of past trauma and I have trouble being around them, it's causing me a lot of problems. Do you know how I can improve or find purpose?

Gothamfan I have no friends
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I’m not to sure how to use this yet, but I just wanted to talk about something my mental health has been getting worse and worse especially in this last semester, and recently I’ve had a falling out with some of my friends, these friends are in most ... View more

I’m not to sure how to use this yet, but I just wanted to talk about something my mental health has been getting worse and worse especially in this last semester, and recently I’ve had a falling out with some of my friends, these friends are in most my classes. These friends really did make me happy because of how much fun I had with them, but I’ve been kicked out and I honestly can’t pin point the reasons why, I do know I shouldn’t have said some things but anyway this made me realise how depressed and hopeless I really am, along with the fact that I have virtually no real friends, my ‘best’ friends are still friends with the friends I fell out with and they always talk to them and sit with them at lunch and I have nowhere else to go so I just sit near them and don’t speak. I know it makes it awkward but I literally have no one else to go to. On top of this For years I’ve been struggling with suicidal thoughts and I really don’t know what to do. i am sorry if this upset or annoyed anyone but I just wanted to vent because I don’t have anyone to talk to

demon_cat Venting about feeling consistently apathetic towards life
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Hey everyone!! I've always been a lurker so this will be my first post. I'm a 22 year old gorl, recently graduated from Bachelor of Science, applied to and accepted an honours offer and aiming to be a psychologist. Which should be exciting but I don'... View more

Hey everyone!! I've always been a lurker so this will be my first post. I'm a 22 year old gorl, recently graduated from Bachelor of Science, applied to and accepted an honours offer and aiming to be a psychologist. Which should be exciting but I don't really care and don't have any happiness towards it. Just "oh, that's neat". I chose psychology bc yes, I am interested in and an advocate for mental health, but also bc I got good grades for it so "why not". I think I'd be okay if I also didn't go through with it all, I've never been highly ambitious about my future and I don't think it'll change. I think these feelings exacerbated as I worked more days a week, with 8 or 12 hour shifts. The reality of the cycle solidified in my head. I have to constantly work in order to live. A dumb thought and complaint, but the concept tires me. I work to make money so I can relax from the work. I know it's possible to enjoy the job you have but, once an activity becomes a source of income, I lose the joy that it might have previously brought. With this mindset, I don't have the need for ambition or motivation to do great things or to make great accomplishments as some of my friends do, I just need a steady source of income. Money means a lot to me but also nothing at all simultaneously, it'd be great if I had a lot, but just enough is fine. I don't know if this is concerning or not, bc I don't think it's causing any significant distress impacting my life. But it would be better if I went through with life feeling more okay than meh and more energised than tired, right? My mental health has its ups and downs like everyones. I've experienced social anxiety and OCD-like symptoms across the years, and even struggled with some suicidal ideation/thoughts (which have since passed). Those have dulled down a fair bit and now I'm just going through the motions of life bc it's expected and I'm just existing, you know? I like to believe that I'm fulfilled in other areas. I think I have a good support system and great friends. I have a few hobbies though I rarely stay committed to one. I learnt how to accept my body through the concept of body neutrality, which might also say something. In conclusion, idk, are these just the effects of living in a capitalist society lol. Thank you if you listened to my meaningless rant all the way through, it was a very long one so I appreciate it.

AliC_ Being unfriended and how to cope
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I need advice. Recently I had a big falling out with my ex boyfriend (who I thought I was still on somewhat good terms with) and majority of our mutual friends due to my “not being able to get over the break up” and my mental health issues which have... View more

I need advice. Recently I had a big falling out with my ex boyfriend (who I thought I was still on somewhat good terms with) and majority of our mutual friends due to my “not being able to get over the break up” and my mental health issues which have gotten more severe recently due to a heap of other circumstances. I’m in therapy with a counsellor and waiting to see a psychiatrist to work on it more but the general gist is anxiety, depression, and possibly adhd or ptsd (under investigation) anyway this week I noticed that two of my friends and my ex unfriended me and blocked me on social media which I am heartbroken about as I genuinely thought that in a few months once I was in a better place we could work it all out. What do I do now? Where do I go from here?

Buttermilkbob Feeling hopeless and unemployed
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Hey there, this is my first post. I'm 24 I don't have a job or any skills, I was terrible at school and I was told from an early age that I have a language disorder. Through primary and high school I was always behind on my work and was constantly in... View more

Hey there, this is my first post. I'm 24 I don't have a job or any skills, I was terrible at school and I was told from an early age that I have a language disorder. Through primary and high school I was always behind on my work and was constantly in learning assistance programs throughout my school years. Coming out of high school I went to tafe and struggled to finish my deploma which I didn't complete. As a result of my early schooling I feel as if I can barley articulate myself properly and struggle to find the words that I want to say, or follow a conversation or do anything competently, and struggle to do basic maths of any sort.I've had the odd jobs here and there but nothing lasting more than a year, i can barley hold down a job and just feel as if I wasn't properly prepared for being an adult and feel bitter, stupid and incompetent and quite honestly scared for the future.

.liv_.. Ex and Best friend
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Hey guys, I understand that this may be a confrontational topic but is something that i desperately need to get off my chest. A night ago i met up with my ex (who i am still friends with dispite originally ending on bad terms) and my best friend. we ... View more

Hey guys, I understand that this may be a confrontational topic but is something that i desperately need to get off my chest. A night ago i met up with my ex (who i am still friends with dispite originally ending on bad terms) and my best friend. we went back to her house and we were having fun untill they started kissing in front of me. We talked about it and she said that she would not have done it if i had given her a sign but i don’t believe this. This is due to the fact that she told me that she regrets what she did while telling my ex that she wants to do it again (he messaged me about it telling me this). I am scared of confrontation and do not see myself working up the nerve to tell her i don’t like it, even tho i thought it was obvious i wouldn’t. Anyone have any ideas on what I should do?

.liv_.. Body Image
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How to I learn to love my body? I have been aiming to workout regularly and I have found this hard due to homework and my job. I still look the same as I did a year ago with no changes. I see my friend say healthy for a week and they loose weight, i ... View more

How to I learn to love my body? I have been aiming to workout regularly and I have found this hard due to homework and my job. I still look the same as I did a year ago with no changes. I see my friend say healthy for a week and they loose weight, i could eat healthy and workout and see no difference. Could someone tell me why?

Pyromancer Work is making feel so sad and angry
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Hey there, everyone. This is my first ever post on Beyond Blue, and I prefer to be a lurker on forums. However, I feel like I need to vent. I'm finding myself really struggling to have a positive mindset because of my work. I'm in my early twenties, ... View more

Hey there, everyone. This is my first ever post on Beyond Blue, and I prefer to be a lurker on forums. However, I feel like I need to vent. I'm finding myself really struggling to have a positive mindset because of my work. I'm in my early twenties, and my job is requires being physical. Essentially, I have been titled as a recycler.That never has bothered me, only the environment I find myself in. I work in the production warehouse of a retail store, which I joined ever since i finished high school. I don't have any issues interacting with others, and I do engage in a lot of banter. What I've come to realise is that I'm very much a person who dwells in the past, and will become very blue and have a 'woe is me' attitude when I'm told off at work. For the past three years, I dealt with a manager who would berate me every day, and while I was never manhandled by him, I feel like I was bullied to some extent. He was the most reprehensible person I have met. Thankfully, he moved on elsewhere, and I'm more relaxed at work. My other supervisor was once annoyed with me because she felt pressured because I was waiting for her to complete a task, so then that we could move carts together, which is a required process after her work. However, she told me to that I was bothering her, but I didn't do anything, since I had completed my other tasks and wanted to stay and wait to help out. She then knocked my head three times, very much like when you would knock on a door. I remember distinctly her laughing at this. To this day, she has never apologised, and I know she feels no guilt because she once laughed about yet again. I understand I'm not being too cohesive at this point, but I have a mix of emotions. I have a burning rage that I've been physically touched by a supervisor for trying to be considerate. I just feel so weak and emasculated. I just have no drive to want to do well at work. I have no drive to do anything. I have had to spend THREE MONTHS BY MYSELF running around the warehouse, getting everyone's bins and products to be recycled. I feel like a dog. And management have had the gall to act annoyed at my asks for help. I want to explode and make them realise how angry and sad I am. My joy in life would be just daydreaming about any fantasy I have. I wish that they were real. I'm sorry for the tangent, and I understand, reading back on everything, how stupid and weird this is to complain about.

Someone-who-sleeps Everything feels like too much
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I'm not sure how to say this, I find it so hard to write what I'm feeling and going through. I'm going to try, this may sound weird but here I go. I have been feeling down again, being stuck in lockdown has made it hard. I have felt a lot of pressure... View more

I'm not sure how to say this, I find it so hard to write what I'm feeling and going through. I'm going to try, this may sound weird but here I go. I have been feeling down again, being stuck in lockdown has made it hard. I have felt a lot of pressure from school and home, people expect so much of me and I feel I don't live up to their expectations. I feel like a failure at times and life gets a little too much but I don't want to talk to anyone, I just can't get words out. I feel like my family is often annoyed/angry at me, they constantly say I'm on my phone and being lazy. I've also had a major writers block and I can't write anything, nothing is sparking ideas. I've been getting emotional lately, but it doesn't last for long, maybe a couple of days and then I'm fine for a while. My major problem is I don't want to talk to anyone, I dislike going to someone about my problems, I struggle to express what I want to say and then I go quiet. I'm not sure what to do.

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