My dad has a different view on life and always does things differently - even simple things He's become lazier over the years and it has driven my family mad.
I, unfortunately, still live at home (I did move out for a brief period but came back). Dad is unemployed (well, self-employed by selling things on the internet) and is usually home all day. I have a part time job and I'm usually out all day either at work or with friends or my boyfriend, so I usually come home to eat and sleep. He likes to spend all day on his computer watching YouTube videos while he waits for someone to buy something from his little business he has, rather than clean the mess HE makes.
I have fought so hard with him to get his act together but he won't change, and I have given up. For years, I've been looking after myself in my dad's home. He still cooks me dinner as I work most nights and he picks me up from work as I am working on getting my licence, but overall, he's lazy and blind to the mess around him. He has improved a bit due to an old friend helping him clear stuff out of the house but it's still not enough. We have a Council clean up and it's the perfect opportunity to toss the majority of the mess away and he's doing it but not to the extent I want; he's just lazy. I would help but I'm never home!
I never invite friends over anymore, however, I felt the most humiliated when my boyfriend managed to come over. I couldn't say no as we needed to do something that required a computer and we were close to my house, so off we went. I had warned him that the house was a bit messy as dad has been clearing out stuff for the clean up (as mentioned before) and apologised for any mess that he saw. We went straight to my room (which was a bit messy and I apologised for my own mess). When we were leaving my dad was using his leaf blower as a substitute for a vacuum in the lounge room!
I kept apologising to my bf about my dad and his house but he said he loves me for me despite where I live, that he knows I have different values from my dad, that I am not my dad, that it's my dad's house and I'm just there temporarily, but I'm just embarrassed that he had to see all of that. He noted things that even I was blind to which made it even more upsetting. He actually wanted to see inside my dad's house because of he was curious about my dad had only meeting him once before. I love him, he's my dad, but he's just so different to everyone!
I don't know how to deal with this.
