Depression

[2000soph]

Hi who ever is reading this

I am 15 years old. I have been dealing with depression for a few months now and I haven't hardly got no one to talk to as none of my friends or family understand how I'm feeling. 

 i am stressing about school with all my exams and asssessments coming up as I have been really unfocused a lot with my brother facing prison for 15 years. 

i have lost all my trust and faith in myself and friends as there has been fights with the group I hang out with and they are really the only friends I have. i feel I have no one anymore that I ruin everything as I have lost a really good friend and by boyfriend who I loved so much. I just need help before its to late as Im scared invade I do something stupid. Can any of yous help me please I really need it? 

Has anyone got any ideas how I can be happy again as it feels impossible I have tried talking to a counsellor, parents, friends and family also doing some physical activities to keep my mind of things but none of these are helping me. Does anyone have any other strategies i could try to help me. 

Thank you 

[Francesco]

Hi,

Well done on coming here to seek help and advice! that is a brave step and one of the many ways where you can actively seek help!

Definitely sounds as though a lot is going on. How do you feel your friends/family dont understand? How have they approached you?

those negative thoughts are normal but they wont last I promise! Losing people in your life is a difficult thing but it builds character and I know it may not be the most comforting thing to hear right now but wherever you can see the positives in life will do you wonders! 🙂 I am sure there are some people who can offer support, embrace those people!

 I want to post a link here about what BeyondBlue has to say about depression and the treatments and perhaps that may be a good help https://www.youthbeyondblue.com/understand-what's-going-on/depression

There are many options I believe in you!

I highly recommend continuing the counselling, did you not like it?

ALways here to chat! 🙂

[geoff]

dear Soph, hello, and great for you to post a comment.

Boy, a lot is happening for you at the moment or has been going on for quite awhile with the court case going to trial would certainly be very unpleasant for you to watch.

I would tend to believe that 'your mates' may have been making comments that were not desirable and has now made you feel all alone, which I am truly sorry for, as being 15 kids can say awful remarks without even thinking of the circumstances.

Can I just say that you are safe here on this site and can talk about anything at any time to someone who will respond, so please take care of yourself and we will endeavour to do all we can to help you when you feel in a desperate mood, and if it's in the middle of the night please ring the Beyond Blue phone number which is above.

The BB number will allow you to talk to experienced counsellors, and even though you're 15 you sound to be quite mature for your age so this will allow you to be able to discuss problems that arise along the way.

Schools, exams and assessments are very tiring and take a great toll on you, so perhaps this is where the school counsellor can help you out, by getting delays or reducing all the hectic load that you have on yourself.

Soph, I think that there is much more that is troubling you at the moment, which I could suggest and say but that wouldn't be fair to you, it's up to you to let us know, but I really hope that you do.

I am worried for you at the present time, so please if you could get back to us that would be lovely. Geoff.

[Narniakid]

Hi 2000soph!

I am sorry to hear that you're having such a tough time! High school is one of the toughest experiences a young person can go through, and it's a shame that a lot of the time your "friends" cause a significant amount of stress. If you have approached your friends about how you're feeling, and they aren't supporting you through it, then they're not worth having as friends - I'm sure they're under a lot of stress from exams as well, which would add to the tension, however that is not an excuse for being a poor friend.

It sounds like you've got a lot on your plate at the moment. Was the counselling through your school counsellor? What was it that you didn't like? I applaud you for taking that step to recovery, and for coming here on the forums. Remember that you are always welcome here and we will never judge you. The hotline is also willing to listen and guide you in the right direction. I also suggest reading up on the incredible resources regarding Depression and the different treatments available here on the website under the 'Resources' tab - BB have some great suggestions!

What I suggest you do in the mean time is focus on your study and doing well, and distract yourself with hobbies and things you enjoy - down-time is so important, especially in high school with all those exams. Make sure you're getting enough sleep and looking after yourself. I suggest keeping a diary or getting some of that stress out through painting or drawing.

I hope you keep us up to date on your happenings, and remember we're always here to listen and support you through this.

Crystal