Dealing with people

[notneeded]

Today, my “best friend” who used to always have my back did something even worst than she did yesterday. Yesterday, she yelled at me and accused me of playing with boys’ feelings. From then we haven’t talked since. Today, during lunch time at school she went to my supposedly called “ex” and started talking shit about me. I’m not sure of what she said but that’s the worst thing she could ever do to me... I still love him. After telling him stuff, he said to her ‘I’m actually pissed’. I know that he’s pissed at me. But he doesn’t know how much I want to say sorry. He thinks that I lead him on but I didn’t. I actually loved him. For the past few days I’ve been drafting a “speech” on how sorry I am and clear any misunderstandings. After talking shit about me to my “ex”, she kept saying ‘I love being a bitch’ or something along those lines. She seemed pretty happy.

I don’t know what to do. She’s in my friend group so for me it’s really awkward. I just hope that at least my “ex” understands me because before we came a ‘thing’ we were pretty good friends.

[quirkywords]

welcome notneeded to the forum.

This is a friendly, caring and supportive place.

Friendships especially at school can be difficult.

I can understand how you would feel confused by the person who you thought was your best friend because of her boasting about her behaviour that she recognised was not nice. you feel let down as it looks like it was just a game to her.

I can see how you would be upset that your ‘friend’ told your ‘ex’ lies.

It is disappointing when you think you can trust someone then they let you down.

Also you want to tell your supposed ex how you feel and not have another peeps. Tell him.

What will do with that speech you have written?

How would you like your ex to react to your speech? How would that make you feel?

How do you imagine your friend will react if you tell her how her actions have upset you? How will you tell her how you feel?

Thanks for sharing your story.

Quirky

[J___]

I hope talking to your 'ex' goes well. as long as you speak truthfully and j=honestly you should be fine. I think the most important thing you have to remember is to not retaliate to your bitching 'friend'. that would make you just as bad as her. my recommendation is ignored her but don't be afraid to stand up for your self if need be.

I really hope this helped