broken families

ashyy · ‎11-07-2018

so for years now i have been in and out of foster care and recently i moved in with my aunt and uncle because my step dad moved and im unable to live with my mum, its been a pretty traumatic couple of years my step dad disowned me for staying where i am for schooling purposes and i just find it hard to cope sometimes and im not ready to talk to a counsellor yet i get shaky around police and child safety officers and find it hard to breath im just seeking help to how to handle myself when this happens... i have other problems but there not all going to fit on here

thank you

Peppermintbach · ‎11-07-2018

Hi ashyy,

How brave of you to share some of your story and pain with us. I feel you have clearly been through a lot (more than what can fit in one post or even multiple posts). I can’t even begin to comprehend what growing up in and out of foster care must have been like...that couldn’t have been easy...

The last couple of years sound particularly rough. It must have been heartbreaking to have been disowned by your stepdad...

Hey, take your time with sharing your story. You don’t have to rush or share anymore than what you feel comfortable sharing. As I said, please take your time...

I get that maybe talking to someone like a counsellor might be too confronting for now. So maybe just keep writing here to unload some of your hurt, pain and feelings. There’s also the BeyondBlue online chat of course...

We are here listening and want to gently support you.

Kind and caring thoughts plus a gentle welcome to the forums 🙂

Pepper

startingnew · ‎11-07-2018

hello Ash, ive found your thread 🙂

ive just responded to you on another thread but would like to support you on here as well. i wont repeat everything ive said but will bring the most relevant points to this thread.

i know its tough and very scary to talk to other people but im wondering if you would be up for writing a letter to your guardians explaining to them how you really are and how much your struggling atm? i find i write better than i talk to people so maybe thats an option for you- i think its worth a shot for sure. you shouldnt have to go through all of this yourself.

Headspace is a support service for people aged 14-25. they offer counselling, and other support services but youll need a refferral to see them from your gp. the do however offer online counselling aswell where you can call, email or use their webchat on a weekly basis (its all free both online and in one of their centres) for extra supports. you can find them easily by typing in 'headspace' into google. another service for you would be Reachout where they have quite abit of info for young people and also Kidshelpline (they too offer email, webchat and call sessions for free on a weekly basis)

im sorry your going through all of this, i cant imagine how tough it would be for you. please dont be afraid to talk to us here though and reach out to the suggested supports. Hugs for all the hard things your going through.

ashyy · ‎13-07-2018

Thank you for being so understanding I have really big trust issues so this is a huge step for me because I am only 15 and have raised 3 children and seen my aunt pretty much dead, I have never really felt the same ever since then 💭

startingnew · ‎15-07-2018

hi ash

im sorry you are going through this. its alot for you to have to handle. i can relate quite alot to you. i also help raie my sisters as well from a very young age and have been a carer (not paid) since i was 10 and am only getting paid in the last 2 yrs (now 21).

do you think contacting headspace or kidshelpline would be ok? they both are online or through a phone call and they can help you through this too. you dont need anyones permisson to use their online/phone services

Peppermintbach · ‎16-07-2018

Hi ashyy,

I’m so glad you decided to write again. It’s great to hear from you.

I think it’s wonderful that Startingnew has written to you here with such wisdom and gentle caring. She’s a carer too...

I feel that I’ve little to add to what she has written but I just wanted to visit to say hello...

Gentle and kind thoughts,

Pepper