Anger issues, depression & anxiety.

[W1]

Hi (this maybe the wrong forum, forgive me first time)

So this would be the first time I have sought help for these issues I am currently dealing with. I am 20 years old and I am dealing with severe anger, mild depression and anxiety issues, I have dealt with these for more than 2 years now and its becoming worse and worse each month. I have lost so much because of this; friends, girlfriend etc. all of which has cut me deeply resulting in depression which i'm trying to control but I feel i'm losing an easy battle and I feel empty, lonely and sad a lot of the time as well as my anxiety is holding me down and is getting the best of me and i'm trying to be confident in my everyday life but I lose to it every time and this irritates me completely as I want to beat this but can't and my anger.... will be the death of me! or at least will get me in a huge amount of trouble. Unfortunately it's becoming worse and worse and only now have I decided to recognise it now after countless times of losing it over small and large things as well as people confronting me about it, I'm scared for one day I may lose it and will do something I regret such as hurt someone or end up somewhere I don't want to be, plus considering I do drink alcohol (on occasion) which can greatly affect my emotions (thankfully I haven't gotten to that point yet) I am scared that under the influence that I could do serious damage to myself but most importantly others around and will hurt someone as I mentioned earlier. So if anyone could give me advice or anything, I would be grateful as I want to beat this and not have this burden riding on my shoulders constantly.

Thanks in advanced to those who read this, I know i'm messed up big time but I guess that's why I am here... to be helped and to gain advice, so thank you!

Regards

[james1]

Hey W1,

This isn't the wrong forum at all, so a massive welcome and thanks for posting here.

I'm 25 and I feel for you. I've also lost a lot due to my mental illness and it sounds like you're here to try and make things right - maybe not the past, but at least make your future right. That's really admirable.

Do you mind if I ask if you are currently seeing a doctor or professional?

Usually, they are the best for giving proper therapies and to put together a plan, and they are very understanding and knowledgeable about lots of different issues.

Otherwise, for self-care it might be a good idea to put together a list of things that do anger you a lot. It sounds like there's a lot of things and that's often caused by depression and anxiety. If you are able to put these down on a list, it will help you see what situations you need to avoid and also give you something to work on with a doctor.

Another thing I do is to have a "safe space" which is good for me mentally and physically. When I was living at home with my parents, my safe space was maccas. Between the frozen cokes and just being out of home, I could sit there for as long as I wanted and do nothing. Now that I've moved out, my safe space is in my living room on my sofa or chair with my bird and bunny rabbit. I also have a mental safe space which is being out in Central Australia at night beneath the stars.

Having a safe space means it's a place you can mentally go to, or even physically, when you are feeling overwhelmed by your emotions.

James