advice please

[rosie_4455]

hi im new to this whole thing and i was wondering if you could help with something. so i am going to say i am only 15 and lately i have lost a few people i was close to. i am moving for the 7th time in 4 years and again to a completely different town and well my really father is well not exactly what you would picture as a dad. he does nothing but lie to me tell me that i am pathetic that he wished i wasnt his daughter and some other things i really shouldn't repeat. i know it doesnt sound bad but having my own dad tell me that is killing me mentally. i have gone and talked to two psychologist and they both think i am just a teenager over reacting and going to my grandparents doesnt help they only tell me that it will past so i should stop crying and get over it. so i have come to you asking you for advice on what i should do and how do i stop my personal life and feelings of getting in the way of my school work and other areas that are being affected by this. please only nice comments so if you think i am just being a normal teenager fine but keep it as a thought but if you have some advice please please please let me know thank you so much

[Nikkir]

Hi Rosie_4455,

Thank you for reaching out to BB and welcome. It sounds like you have been through alot and have had quite alot of instability with all the moving. I think having negativity around you is hurtful and harmful no matter what age you are so I can totally understand you feel upset if your father and family is putting you down and not being supportive. You are welcome to post here anytime or call our number on 1300 22 4636 to chat or for resources. I definately don't think that its right that people say don't worry, your just a teenager especially if all of this stress is affecting other areas of your life. I would look for new therapists. You can get a referral from your GP or call our line for information. You have every right to feel the way you do and you do have alot on your plate as well as this being a very difficult age. The main thing is take care of yourself, try to reach out and get support and get your needs met and do things you like. There is our 'smiling minds app" which I find helpful and it is free, a nice meditation.

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/supporting-someone/looking-after-yourself

There is some good information on our website and useful links. Please keep in touch and let us know how you are going if you can, we would love to hear from you. Wishing you all the best and thank you for your post xxx Nikkir

[5022]

Hi Rosie. Good on you for reaching out to BB. First of all you are not hopeless, i admire your strength too realise how your situation is affecting you and your school work. Believe it or not, teachers are wanderful people to talk to about problems too. My sister is a teacher and often refers to her students as "my kids". They really do care for your welfare. I don't know why your dad does what he does darling and i wish I could give you an answer. So for now, think about how your teachers can help. You can also go to a doctor by yourself and ask too see a female doctor if that is what you prefer and tell her how you feel. Write down your feelings in a diary and take it with you too your teachers and doctor do you can show them. Get ready because right now I'm sending you a huge hug. Be proud of yourself.

[Quiettall]

Hi Rosie

I admire you for your strength to post what you have said. The advice given is rock solid. Journal or keep a diary of what you think, the advice you seek and receive, and believe in yourself. It is too easy to put yourself down as a 15 year old. You have more intelligence than you give credit for.

Have a great Christmas