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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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IT Is this normal.
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I am a 21 year old male doing a trade apprenticeship. I have anxiety and social anxiety, depression, derealisation and therefor lowself esteem. I feel the best when i am working or when i am busy. I know a few people and am not inyerested in meeting ... View more

I am a 21 year old male doing a trade apprenticeship. I have anxiety and social anxiety, depression, derealisation and therefor lowself esteem. I feel the best when i am working or when i am busy. I know a few people and am not inyerested in meeting people but i am friends and hang out with only 2 or 3, we do not do much like clubs and bars just ride motorbikes and chill where ever, as we are not into going out to clubs and bars. Although when we do go out riding or chilling or do anything i can not enjoy it. Is it because i am too mature for my age? What i think i would like is a real girlfriend not for a sexual relationship and would adventually be my wife. I have never been in a relationship because its probably not possible or would be too awkward with the mental issues i have, although i think it would help me and possibly fix my problems. My question is am i too mature for my age thats why i am not enjoying things apart from working, and is it normal to have little friends? Thanks.

_-Jack-_ Making friends of the opposite gender.
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Im 15 and i have a massive problem, i cant be around girls. I don't know how or why but i just freeze up and look like an idiot when i am around girls. I can make friends with almost any guy i meet, but girls are a completely different story. My grou... View more

Im 15 and i have a massive problem, i cant be around girls. I don't know how or why but i just freeze up and look like an idiot when i am around girls. I can make friends with almost any guy i meet, but girls are a completely different story. My group of friends (not bragging or anything) are the popular ones, so they are good friends with almost every girl in our year. So, when I'm hanging out with them and girls get involved it completely ruins it for me because i go from a funny, outgoing, loud person that all the guys love to a socially awkward mess and i sit in a corner away from everyone. This problem is just getting worse, especially now that i will be in year 9 next year. I have had and still do have some female friends, but the only reason is because they have been in my class and over the 12 months i have SLOWLY gotten less awkward around them to the point that they are like one of my guy friends. But if they are not in my class and at a party or out at lunch, i cant approach them, and if i get the courage to approach them (which is rare) i always 100% of the time freeze up and look like a complete moron. Also, the girls at my school kind of ignore me now because I'm such a 'weirdo' in their eyes, yet the blokes think I'm an absolute legend. I think one of the issues for not being able to make friends with girls is the fact that i am obese (I'm short and weigh 85kgs). I just don't have enough self confidence to be around them, and they also do their part in 'not being friends with the fat kid' and its because they would never date me (which i have 100% come to terms with the fact that i will be alone for a long, long time) but you know, I'm not asking them to date me, just be my friend. Anyway what I'm trying to say is they're hot 15 year old chicks and they don't want to be friends with the short fat 'weirdo', yet I'm not really a weird and I'm very popular amongst the blokes (SO CONFUSING!). So ignoring the fact that they kind of go out of their way to ignore me and focusing on how i freeze up when I'm around them, does anybody have any tips about how to overcome this paralysing fear? Thanks, Jack

zonk I'm new but hope my situation helps someone.
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Hello. I'm just a 17 year old girl. I suffered with major depression for about 3 years. I was on medication of antidepressants for a very long time. A lot of things triggered my depression, bullies, not fitting in, the feeling on helplessness when my... View more

Hello. I'm just a 17 year old girl. I suffered with major depression for about 3 years. I was on medication of antidepressants for a very long time. A lot of things triggered my depression, bullies, not fitting in, the feeling on helplessness when my sister was getting bullied and the constant judgement I felt at school. High school is not always a happy or safe place. I came out as bisexual in the early months of year 8. Some of my very close mates, didn't believe it or agree. It was very hard and I began to keep to myself because of it. I believed everyone would treat me like that so it took a tonne of courage to tell my parents. They accepted it and so has everyone else I have told. (Well not everyone, but all the people that matter did) I have struggled with selfharm for about 4-5 years and got judged for that immensely. But I am recovering. I am now off my meds and have been for a few months. I am also clean from self harm and have been for nearly a month. I'm not saying that it is easy because Things get really bad sometimes and I drink a lot, but there is a lot more good than bad. It gets really hard but then It gets easier, it truly does. Recovery is possible, its 100% real. Yeah I relapse sometimes, but that will never make me weak. I wanted to share with you guys my story, well a bit of it anyway, in the hopes of helping a least one person. Thanks.

COTTON_CANDY24 WHO CAN I TRUST
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I was put up for adoption when I was a baby my birth parents live in England and I live with my adopted family in Australia. every time I ask about them my parents tell me to go to my room and stop asking questions about them now they just lie about ... View more

I was put up for adoption when I was a baby my birth parents live in England and I live with my adopted family in Australia. every time I ask about them my parents tell me to go to my room and stop asking questions about them now they just lie about it all

Missn No real friends
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For the past 2 years and half I've been feeling lonely due to the fact that I've been losing friends . My friendships never last . I always wish that I'd have one best friend for a life time sadly never happens. Ever since I graduated from highschool... View more

For the past 2 years and half I've been feeling lonely due to the fact that I've been losing friends . My friendships never last . I always wish that I'd have one best friend for a life time sadly never happens. Ever since I graduated from highschool never saw my friends from high school but I had few friends out of school but I'd catch up every now and then but never close. I barely go out , I'm always home due to fact I got no friends. Im sick of always trying to put the effort in of always contacting them first and feels like I never fit in any group of friends on my birthdays I always realise barely anyone greets me happy birthday so I never celebrate my birthday with friends . It always with either family or my partner . never felt so lonely before until recently my birthday it really hit me that I have barely any friends what should I do ? I want a social life back

Bella95 Looking for some help...
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Hi there, I am new to all of this. Anxiety is a new concept in my life. Since I was about 13 years old, from when I can remember, I have always felt different. I thought the things I was going through were normal until I had a chat to a friend of min... View more

Hi there, I am new to all of this. Anxiety is a new concept in my life. Since I was about 13 years old, from when I can remember, I have always felt different. I thought the things I was going through were normal until I had a chat to a friend of mine who suggested I seek help with anxiety. I feel ashamed to seek help and I feel like reaching out is a sign of weakness. I have trouble sleeping and when I do sleep it is very restless, I constantly having hundreds of thoughts going through my mind 24/7 and I always feel on edge about everything. Even when driving to work each morning (which is 5km from my house) I always feel nervous. There are so many things I can list that are going on with me. I get heart palpitations. I went and saw my GP about a month ago and explained this to her but she told me the heart palpitations are probably a one off and that everyone experiences some form of anxiety. She told me I was fine. I feel as though this isn't the help I should be getting, but I feel embarrassed speaking about it to my family and my GP and I always break down crying. I need some advice on what to do and who I should go and see about this? I feel lost and confused.

rosie_4455 advice please
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hi im new to this whole thing and i was wondering if you could help with something. so i am going to say i am only 15 and lately i have lost a few people i was close to. i am moving for the 7th time in 4 years and again to a completely different town... View more

hi im new to this whole thing and i was wondering if you could help with something. so i am going to say i am only 15 and lately i have lost a few people i was close to. i am moving for the 7th time in 4 years and again to a completely different town and well my really father is well not exactly what you would picture as a dad. he does nothing but lie to me tell me that i am pathetic that he wished i wasnt his daughter and some other things i really shouldn't repeat. i know it doesnt sound bad but having my own dad tell me that is killing me mentally. i have gone and talked to two psychologist and they both think i am just a teenager over reacting and going to my grandparents doesnt help they only tell me that it will past so i should stop crying and get over it. so i have come to you asking you for advice on what i should do and how do i stop my personal life and feelings of getting in the way of my school work and other areas that are being affected by this. please only nice comments so if you think i am just being a normal teenager fine but keep it as a thought but if you have some advice please please please let me know thank you so much

hm Feel guilty for being angry and sad
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Sometimes I just feel like I hate my family, but mostly my sister. She's 21 and I'm 18, and she lives out of home, but still every time I see her I get so angry. We've had so many problems in the past that led to her getting kicked out of home becaus... View more

Sometimes I just feel like I hate my family, but mostly my sister. She's 21 and I'm 18, and she lives out of home, but still every time I see her I get so angry. We've had so many problems in the past that led to her getting kicked out of home because she was just awful to everyone, and I don't understand why everyone acts as though it's normal now when it's not. She's still horribly rude to me and when I complain to my mum she gets angry at me and says I should make more of an effort but it's hard to do that when my sister is still bullying me and being rude to everyone. Sometimes I think I would be totally fine if I never heard from her again. She's so horrible to me and I really can't stand her. She's still acting like a child and it's so frustrating. I can't talk to anyone about it because every time I do they either say the simple "that sucks" or they tell me that she's my sister and it's normal and I'll get over it. It's not normal. It's out of control and I honestly hate her. I don't know how I can make people understand

ad32 I cant deal with it anymore. :(
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hey guys, I have just joined beyond blue because my life in the past couple of weeks has gone completely downhill, i cannot explain everything in the selective amount of words i am given, but i will give it a try. My mum had to go to hospital a coupl... View more

hey guys, I have just joined beyond blue because my life in the past couple of weeks has gone completely downhill, i cannot explain everything in the selective amount of words i am given, but i will give it a try. My mum had to go to hospital a couple of weeks ago for a operation to provent her from getting a cancer (don't worry she is cancer clear). i wasnt able to be with her 3 weeks after the op for she was unable to do anything from walking to driving. 2 Weeks ago was meant to be my first day back with her, for some reason i wasnt exited and i have no idea why, i feel like such a ungrateful brat, i should of been jumping up and down counting down the last couple of hours to see her, anyway thats beside the point, we ended up having a massive fight and i have been staying with dad now. Along with this i have been completely unmotivated to do anything for the past 2 months, school is the only thing that was keeping me going, but now that its the holidays all i have done everyday is lay in my bed and completely make no use of myself. I think today has been the worst, i have had several anxiety attacks today and had a completely rubbish sleep last night i feel crap, nothing is getting better, everything is falling around me, even my relationship with my own mum, who has done so much for me, that i love with all my heart, i dont want to deal with this anymore, i just want my mum through all of this but i have been trying to contact her, and no reply, every time i contact her no reply. i dont know what else to say, im not eating or sleeping properly, i feel completely flat. Someone help please :(. Thankyou all kindly With regards, Adah

Stepppphh Trying to find my way
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Im 25, im just finishing my second year of a pretty successful but demanding internship. Over the past few years I have felt myself lose control. I feel like I'm in a black hole. Last year I was excluded from my group at uni and felt very isolated. T... View more

Im 25, im just finishing my second year of a pretty successful but demanding internship. Over the past few years I have felt myself lose control. I feel like I'm in a black hole. Last year I was excluded from my group at uni and felt very isolated. Thats when the panic attacks started where I would cry for hours and I wouldnt be able to cope. When those happened the only thing I could do was sleep. The past few months have seen these come back a lot worse. I have panic attacks so frequently. But more recently i have began seeing a guy I thought was amazing, he was perfect in what I wanted but at the moment Im not sure. I have had a few really bad relationships with some guys that have just wanted sex and now I have petrified that he is going to turn out like all the other guys. He is lovely and caring towards me, however I am so constantly thinking about him doing so just to win me over and get what he wants. How do I stop myself thinking this? Now I cant find enjoyment in us hanging out and I feel the black cloud over my head which means I cant stop crying. I am so scared of him hating me for not wanting to have sex with him yet that im freaking myself out. I need to stop feeling like this. I want some happiness back. What is wrong with me?

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