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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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DavidDS4 Seeking Advice
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Hello my name is David im 19years of age and this isn't something i would normally actually do but here goes so last year i had lost my oldest brother in a car accident and from then on my life has been going down hill, My Girlfriend who i really lov... View more

Hello my name is David im 19years of age and this isn't something i would normally actually do but here goes so last year i had lost my oldest brother in a car accident and from then on my life has been going down hill, My Girlfriend who i really loved left me, i have lost friends over periods of time and i have also been struggling to find work for so long, the worst bit is i feel like i have nobody to talk to about this stuff, mainly because i feel as if i want someone other then family to talk to about this stuff because of the chats we could have..i feel like my life has turned around and gone another way and i feel as if i don't have a path to follow in life and i'm really unsure of what to do..

beautyisneverperfect I Feel So Trapped
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Hi everyone. I'm new so I'm not quite sure how this all works, but please bear with me. I have really bad social anxiety. My mind is in 100% overdrive 100% of the time, and it's gotten to the point where I put a 'I couldn't care less' mask on in fron... View more

Hi everyone. I'm new so I'm not quite sure how this all works, but please bear with me. I have really bad social anxiety. My mind is in 100% overdrive 100% of the time, and it's gotten to the point where I put a 'I couldn't care less' mask on in front of everybody, because it's better to be distant than to be judged for who I truly am. Everyone at school (I'm almost 16) thinks I have no sense of humour, and I'm possibly the most boring person ever, because I never laugh and I never joke. But they don't realise that it's not because I'm no fun, it's because I'm not letting myself relax and have fun around them. It's so tiring, but lately I feel as if it's getting better. I only became anxious after some verbal bullying I went through a few years ago, but he ended up getting expelled for drug use. So as I've said, I was getting better, and writing was always my outlet. When I became sad or overwhelmed, I'd sit at my laptop and write. Poetry, short stories, anything - and nobody knew, nobody was allowed to read them, but that was never the point - they were there for my eyes only, and they felt personal. But one day I made the mistake of telling my parents I write - and they mean well, they really do, but they don't understand mental health. My mum thinks it's just an excuse for lazy people. So they never knew I had issues, and I never felt the need to tell them - I had others I could go to. And one day I let it slip that I write for fun. They were so excited for me, and demanded me show them, and didn't let up, so I did. I showed them a piece. And they said it was good. Brilliant. Demanded I handed it up in a writing competition. So I did. And I won. So they were proud, right? Excited. They pestered me to write more, every holidays, and to show them and hand it into competitions. When I said I didn't want to, they got mad. "Why not? You're talented! Don't be lazy." When I tell them it's because it's something I do for myself, they can't grasp that concept. So they nag, and they set writing deadlines, as if it's an assignment they've handed me. As if they can do that. I went along with it a few times, but it felt like I was giving away a part of me. So I started saying no, but they continue nagging no matter what I tell them about needing this for myself, that they're not allowed to read more, that it makes me happy. And it's driving me crazy, because it feels like I'm losing the one real thing that was mine. What should I do?

whitebutterfly new member, hi :)
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Hi everyone, my name is Hanna (pen name/nickname-ish) To be completely honest, I'm scared to talk about my problems since I'm afraid of people secretly judging me. Currently dealing with family issues, anxiety and other stuff that I don't think can b... View more

Hi everyone, my name is Hanna (pen name/nickname-ish) To be completely honest, I'm scared to talk about my problems since I'm afraid of people secretly judging me. Currently dealing with family issues, anxiety and other stuff that I don't think can be confirmed yet.

webber Anyone else experience this before?
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I can't identifying what I'm feeling. It doesn't feel like one feeling, its more an attack of multiple confusing feelings that come and go many times a day. I try to look up on google to see if anyone else has identified it but I don't even know what... View more

I can't identifying what I'm feeling. It doesn't feel like one feeling, its more an attack of multiple confusing feelings that come and go many times a day. I try to look up on google to see if anyone else has identified it but I don't even know what to write in the search bar. I'm not to sure what to say since I cant really identify what I'm feeling. I don't know how to describe it. Im not in unbearable pain like some peoples head states can put them in but I'm definitely uncomfortable and sometimes its very frustrating. I also get so angry so easily, and at the most random stuff, for example... the sound of someone chewing or a bird constantly chirping outside (pretty much any random noises that are constant). I try not to get angry or focus on the noises but my brain literally latched onto the sound and I feel my body fill with rage. I usually stop the rage by pinching myself really hard or biting the sides of my cheeks but its starting to effect my classes and work…. Along with the fact that all my body wants to do it sleep!!! I am so unmotivated to get up and go of late that I start having little conflicts with myself. I don't want to do anything and once I have done nothing all day I get so mad at myself and tell myself tomorrow will be different, I will put the effort in... but end up doing the exact same thing. Its very repetitive and I know reading this you might think I just need to break the cycle but its just so hard and I don't understand why! There are things that have happened in my lift the past year that I sometimes think could be a huge factor as to why this is happening, but then I feel as if its all in the past, it is all done and dusted so why would it be a factor… Along with the fact that I don't feel comfortable talking about it…. Im not too sure. Anyways I'm just wringing this to see if letting it out in a way helps me, or see if there is anyone that has experienced theses feelings and identify it.

RuneCat17464 The Title :PP (Strong Crush on Mean Person][to put it simply]
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I am usually a pretty loud and energetic person but then I started getting a crush on this girl [um had it for almost a year now] and I'm really confused about my sexual identity but that's not really like my 'main' problem I suppose. For me, when I ... View more

I am usually a pretty loud and energetic person but then I started getting a crush on this girl [um had it for almost a year now] and I'm really confused about my sexual identity but that's not really like my 'main' problem I suppose. For me, when I get a crush, I get really shy (lose the ability to speak real words) and when I do stay stuff I'm not really thinking so it sounds stupid (which it is). Uh my happiness has become almost completely dependent on her but shes pretty mean to me [said my friends and my brain] but I like love her a lot(for some reason) [love is weird - Johanna Mason] and I'm always lying to myself that 'im just too sensitive' 'she is not mean its just her personality' and I've been really unhappy and get really dramatic mood swings- one minute im laughing and running around and the next im hiding in the toilet crying or something. She has suspicions that i'm obsessed with her but not crushing -I've talked to a few close friends and counsellors and they all said to build a boundary but I'm not really sure how to do that and stick with it...

Kln Anxiety and depression have ruined my life
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This is my first time posting, I haves I much anxiety about trying to tell people that I'm not okay, so this is hard for me, I'm so used to being the strong Unbreakable person. 9months ago at work a patient died, I do medical scanning and it was duri... View more

This is my first time posting, I haves I much anxiety about trying to tell people that I'm not okay, so this is hard for me, I'm so used to being the strong Unbreakable person. 9months ago at work a patient died, I do medical scanning and it was during a scan, it was a massive shock and I soon fell into depression, anxiety and I guess PTSD. I have struggled so badly, I tried medication however the side effects were too much. I have been seeing a psychologist and know all the things I need to do to get better but I just can't seem to put them in place. i know my emotions have been erratic and I'm all over the place,but I thought I had a good support system. But a couple days ago my boyfriend of 7 years left me. He had been lying to me and not being there for me when i needed. i am now back to square one and dont know what to do. I have no close friends because I find it hard to open up to people. I don't have the greatest relationship with my parents as I'm adopted and have the fear of letting them down. I'm so used to being the over achiever and perfect role model that no one believes that I'm actually not okay. My anxiety has become so bad that I am too scared to leave the house and normal daily things are too hard. How am I meant to move forward when I am being forced back?

lp1379-3906dx Would talking to a psychologist help me feel better?
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Sorry if this turns out incoherent, like most people I find it very hard to begin talking about myself. I am 24 years old and I think I might have problems but I'm very nervous about seeing a GP. I feel like rather than having problems, I could be ex... View more

Sorry if this turns out incoherent, like most people I find it very hard to begin talking about myself. I am 24 years old and I think I might have problems but I'm very nervous about seeing a GP. I feel like rather than having problems, I could be exaggerating or making excuses to/pitying myself. I'm also unfamiliar with this stuff since where I came from (I am currently an international student, for some reason, I find this difficult to admit), we didn't have a very coherent health care system, and mental health is an extremely foreign concept. Throughout my life, I have not made a single friend. I did have a close "friend" during the time I was 16 to 21, when I was in the UK, but she was...not good, and pretty much made that entire period very...terrible for me; which was the reason why I burned the bridge, even though it was the only social connection I've ever had. I've had no real relationship and sex always made me feel bad afterwards. I also do not feel good about my family. We do not get along and my parents have always made the case that I "was born with a bad/deficit personality" since my childhood. Bad things always happen when I spend time with family. My mother is very stressed, being the sole financial provider as well as carer; she's unhappy as she hasn't been treated well at all since the day of marriage. It is basically a typical bad East Asian family. She projects a lot of her negative feelings on me. My experience with both school and work was not too happy, either. I was always bullied and an outcast at school (when I told my parents they repeatedly scolded me as they thought it was my fault). I was unable to study the fields I was interested in, as my parents used several methods to force me to study what they wanted for me. It was something I was really bad at. Unlike most people, I could never quite get over it, and by the time I was in my second year in university, I was failing several subjects and had become a complete shut-in. I sometimes tried to go to class but I always felt extreme pain whenever I was reaching for the doorknob. It was so difficult that I just kept resigning myself to staying inside my room. I landed an office job after graduation, again I was completely withdrawn from everybody and received many complaints about my inability to socialise. Currently, I'm having troubles that would be catastrophic if my family knew, I'm scared. It takes me many hours to get up, showering and eating feel like an effort.

spritelover Party drugs leading to depression
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Hi I'm a 18 year old who isn't very social used to stay at home all weekend by myself didn't really have any friend until I starting going out to clubs/raves doing ecstasy/cocaine meeting so many new people who some have become close friends today bu... View more

Hi I'm a 18 year old who isn't very social used to stay at home all weekend by myself didn't really have any friend until I starting going out to clubs/raves doing ecstasy/cocaine meeting so many new people who some have become close friends today but my problem is the days after all the partying on the weekend I feel depressed and unmotivated questioning everything and the. just crawling by the work week so I can go out again on the weekend and do it all over again and I'm not sure if I can go without the party drugs but I'm tired of feeling like shit the whole week for 1-2 nights of fun

MargaritaRowe Hypochondria
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How do people deal with this? I struggle every day. It eats at me and I feel like I'm exploding and rotting. All logic swims away from me and I am in what seems irreparable insanity and misery. I don't have anyone to talk to or see. Don't even mentio... View more

How do people deal with this? I struggle every day. It eats at me and I feel like I'm exploding and rotting. All logic swims away from me and I am in what seems irreparable insanity and misery. I don't have anyone to talk to or see. Don't even mention doctors or psychiatrists or psychologists, I have tried so many and have not found relief. I have stopped taking medication. I have good weeks, rarely and many bad nights with ok days sometimes awful days. I think loneliness makes this all worse than it would be. I don't think there's anything I can do.

iameviljosh Can't trust anyone/let people inyo my life due to past trauma and periods of homelessness
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Where to start? Well I'm looking for general advice on how to feel like I can trust people around me. I'll give a little context first: I'm 22 years old, and sort of managed to find myself homeless in Oz (I'm from the UK) after my own family that I w... View more

Where to start? Well I'm looking for general advice on how to feel like I can trust people around me. I'll give a little context first: I'm 22 years old, and sort of managed to find myself homeless in Oz (I'm from the UK) after my own family that I was staying with in Australia kicked me out about 18 months ago. I had a bit of a messed up adolescence due to a couple of traumatic experiences and being in and out of a psych unit due to depression, anxiety, and self harm. For the most part I've since recovered. Since being kicked out there has been periods of time where I've either had to 'rough it' or squat to keep a roof over my head and had to go without food on several occasions. This could also involve living alone without any friends for weeks/months at a time. I've also got an incredibly addictive personality and regularly engage substance abuse to try and cope, including hard drugs. I won't go into specifics but let's just say there is no one I can call for help, be it financial or emotional support any more. It probably wouldn't surprise you to hear that I have self-esteem issues and find it really hard to trust anyone, along with occasional bouts of crippling depression, though these are usually short-lived; I haven't self harmed in nearly 5 years. Now, with all this being said, I do sort of have a life together for the moment; I have a job and a room in a shared house currently. I would even say I have a loosely defined group of friends for the moment who I see fairly regularly. My real question is this: How can I learn to trust people again? I have a real fear of intimacy, to the point where I don't feel comfortable sharing personal feelings or letting people into my life properly. I always feel like I need to be 'ready' in case things all fall apart again. Another weird thing I've noticed is I don't like people physically touching me any more. I want to be able to trust people again, and have the confidence to share my thoughts and feelings with people, especially now that I'm no longer in 'survival mode'. Anyone have any similar experiences or advice on how to be able to make meaningful connections and build up trust in people?

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