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Sophie_M How are you feeling about the social media restrictions in Australia for under 16s?
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Hey everyone With the upcoming Australian social media restriction for under 16-year-olds coming up we want to know what this means for you and maybe even the young people in your life. This conversation is a place for all of us to share how we are f... View more

Hey everyone With the upcoming Australian social media restriction for under 16-year-olds coming up we want to know what this means for you and maybe even the young people in your life. This conversation is a place for all of us to share how we are feeling and what we think the challenges and benefits might be for you or the wonderful young people in our community. Have you thought about how to stay connected with friends you’ve met online? Are you focused mostly on the positives, or the negatives? What do your parents think, and what could they do to support you? Importantly the Beyond Blue Forums are not impacted by these restrictions, we're here for anyone under 16. In short, from December 10 Social Media companies will need to ensure that only people over 16 actively engage with their platforms. There is a lot of information out there which can make it tricky to know what to expect on when it comes into effect. To learn more we think these are a helpful place to start eSafety commissioner + Headspace FAQs. We know this change will impact some more than others, QLife provide anonymous and free LGBTIQ+ support and 13YARN are here for all Aboriginal & Torres Strait Islander people. We want to hear your thoughts on how this might impact the mental health of under 16s in both a positive and negative way. The Beyond Blue Forums are a place for constructive and helpful conversation and the regular moderation rules apply which means we look forward to a kind and understanding discussion. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings Sophie M

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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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Taylah_123 Hi
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Hey guys I'm Taylah

Hey guys I'm Taylah

georgiamolly Feeling sad and confused
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Hi, I am new here a few months ago I found out I have a b12 deficiency, I've had all treatment and it is much better now. During these last few month I have been feeling very sad and I am always down and tired... I am always crying about these though... View more

Hi, I am new here a few months ago I found out I have a b12 deficiency, I've had all treatment and it is much better now. During these last few month I have been feeling very sad and I am always down and tired... I am always crying about these thoughts I am having. i keep having these negative thoughts about my boyfriend, I always think 'what if I don't love him' 'do I love him' 'why am I thinking this' 'this is so wrong' these thoughts make me extremely upset where I can not stop cryiny. I love my boyfriend more than anything. I do not want too loose him or hurt him. I don't want to break up with him. but these scary thoughts are telling me different. I don't know what to do anymore I am sick of feeling this way all the time. Im so scared I keep thinking 'if I'm having these thoughts it must be true' but are these real thoughts? I hope not i honestly don't know what I would do without him, he has supported me through everything. I have no idea why I keep thinking these thoughts! It scares me so much. I can't handle this anymore it is ruining me inside! Why am I having these scary thoughts? Is this normal? I do nothing all day everyday, would this have an impact on my negative thoughts? Please help!

anxious97 help
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my life is basically crumbling apart in front of me... i live with my single mum and two younger siblings and our dad (who we no longer live with) has just told us that he is probably going to loose his job. my mum doesn't earn enough to support us, ... View more

my life is basically crumbling apart in front of me... i live with my single mum and two younger siblings and our dad (who we no longer live with) has just told us that he is probably going to loose his job. my mum doesn't earn enough to support us, so we rely on him. mums pay just covers our rent and we just get by as it is but without my dads income, we won't have anywhere to live and my brother and sister won't have a school to go to. im so lost. i don't know what to do. I'm trying to be strong for my mum but I'm dying inside. where do we go from here?

Some_guy Not sure what to do
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Hi all, I'm new to this thread I'm not really sure what I'm doing on this site but I thought it'd be a good place to vent. Recently I have been feeling overwhelmingly lonely and depressed. I have always been like this but recently it is too much. My ... View more

Hi all, I'm new to this thread I'm not really sure what I'm doing on this site but I thought it'd be a good place to vent. Recently I have been feeling overwhelmingly lonely and depressed. I have always been like this but recently it is too much. My whole life I had been alone. About a year ago I got out of a long term relationship. The relationship lasted 3 years. Before her, I just felt like I was just a broken person. I had no real friends after or during high school. I'd go weeks without talking to anyone or even leaving the house. I had no motivation or drive to do anything because I didn't think my life could be anything different. But anyway, once I met this girl and eventually got into this relationship. I thought everything would be better, and it was for a while but I was still broken. Eventually We moved into a house together.. But I had trouble getting my life together (finding work and getting my license) I was basically living off her.. I tried to do what I can. But I hated myself for what I did to her and what I couldn't bring myself to do. There is alot more to this but eventually I just got worse and she left me. I understand why she did, she had to. I don't hate her for it but It nearly killed me at the time. She was all I had. she really did love me, her family treated me like part of their own. we had this whole life planned out. We were kind of engaged and we even talked about having kids.. And I messed it up.. After it ended I hit rock bottom. I was suicidal but I couldn't do it. I felt weak because of It. I decided I needed to do something. It was either going to destroy me or change me. And it did change me. I put myself out there, got diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety. Got help with that (medication and therapy) studied for a while, made some friends, even had a couple of other girlfriends. I got a job out of what I studied and am getting my license in a few weeks (after 6 years) But after all I had gone through, thinking I had gotten better. I now feel I am back where I started.. I have no friends. My family isn't a family. I sit around all day trying to waste time. And I don't know what to do? I don't know where to go from here. I don't think I will ever get over my depression but this loneliness, it's killing me. I'm really trying to meet new people but no matter what, nothing is changing. For the last few months my life has been nothing but me working and waiting for something more. I don't know what to do.

Alec29 I hate myself and feel very lonely and a burden on the people around me.
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Im not sure why im here tbh but i have always had very low self esteem i was bullied as a kid and sometimes still am, my father was and is emotionally abusive (physically a few times but not serious) and I have always never been good enough no matter... View more

Im not sure why im here tbh but i have always had very low self esteem i was bullied as a kid and sometimes still am, my father was and is emotionally abusive (physically a few times but not serious) and I have always never been good enough no matter what the circumstance, most of the time i hate myself im a burden to the people around me and i cant talk to my friends about issues because i feel like they dont care and only want me around for comedic relief i even feel like this when i go see the school therapist and my psychologist. I am always angry and stressed and i take it out on other around me and im a horrid person and everyone would be better off if I wasnt around them im a burden in every sense of the word and often think what is the point in living or doing anything, one day we will die and everything we have ever done, said or thought will cease to exist (im not suicidal). I went through a rough patch for a few months and got diagnosed with depression by my GP but it went away after a few months and the psychologist doesn't think im actually depressed, my depression comes and goes i'll be fine for a week or a month and then boom all of a sudden im depressed i hate myself even more and i cant stop crying and hating myself, this lasts from a few hours to days and it comes and goes sometimes it happens days in a row for a few hours and my physiologist wants me to try and be more positive and show myself compassion but i cant do it and i dont deserve it and iv tried but i have spent so long hating myself that i cant do anything about it i can try but its not going to work and i find all that i love myself and cheesy be positive stuff to be rubbish and I cant do it. For years everyones been telling me to be positive but i cant do it it just isnt me. I also have extra life stress and body issues after realising i might be transgender and am in the process of transitioning. I have also been having some symptoms that my doctor believes may be anxiety, im just sitting in class, or eating at home or at lunch at school or in my room and all of a sudden it feels like someone is choking me or has their hand tight around my throat i know logically i can breathe but it is unpleasant and everything up head,neck etc gets tight and uncomfortable and i sometimes feel nauseous and worried.I dont know what is going on and i dont like it. Sorry for the incoherent rant.

kyraroar its getting worse
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its worse than its ever been. the breath taken right out of me. constricted. stuck. lost.

its worse than its ever been. the breath taken right out of me. constricted. stuck. lost.

indiaink Debilitating intrusive thoughts about relationship, rOCD?
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Heyo, I'm a newbie and it's my first post. I've been in a relationship (LDR) with probably the most amazing guy imaginable for over a year and a half now, he's kind, loving, caring and so understanding. I think he looks quite great as well, and he's ... View more

Heyo, I'm a newbie and it's my first post. I've been in a relationship (LDR) with probably the most amazing guy imaginable for over a year and a half now, he's kind, loving, caring and so understanding. I think he looks quite great as well, and he's smart and funny. However, over the past month or so I have been having possibly the worst imaginable thoughts about leaving him, whether I truly love him, whether he is the one ect. He is my first serious relationship as well, and we plan on meeting in mid 2017. I've been seeing a counsellor at school (I'm in year 12) for about a year now due to suspected anxiety and depression, however I've been unable to receive diagnosis and treatment from a mental health practitioner due to me being uncomfortable talking about it with my parents. (I told my mum emotionally yesterday, and I'm probably going to see a psychologist after exams). The first time I can recall this happening would be during the holidays before my final term at school. So late September/ early October. I can't say there has been an extreme disagreement or argument that may have caused me to think this way. The thoughts are so painful, they make me doubt everything I have ever felt about him, and I feel like so guilty for doubting what we have. I absolutely love this guy and thinking about these horrid things is pushing me over the edge. I try rationalise my thoughts, but I usually meet a dead end, and they are corroding my happiness with him. Constantly picking at my head, making me question every single thing I feel when I am with him. If I am happy, I feel as though I am miss leading him, because I know of the havoc that goes on in my mind. I just want them to stop. They make me question whether I want to meet him, and if i might end up leaving him after we meet. I spoke to him about it, and he remained strong, but I know it hurts him to see me in such pain almost every day. Every waking second I can do nothing but think of 'what if I leave' or 'maybe I should end it' I love him dearly, and I want to stay with him forever. I tear up every time I think about the thoughts. Constantly making me question everything that was concrete in our relationship. Heck, it was the only thing I didn't worry about, and now my cruel mind cannot even give me the luxury of that. There are some moments of calm, moments where I can laugh with him, and see that it is going to be okay. But when the thoughts take over, it's like there is no end. Please help.

LilJ I'm so tired of this
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I've only been struggling with depression for a couple of years but I really hit rock bottom at the start of this year. Had a couple of hospital visits and got myself some real help. Things were going better and I felt like I could breathe again. Now... View more

I've only been struggling with depression for a couple of years but I really hit rock bottom at the start of this year. Had a couple of hospital visits and got myself some real help. Things were going better and I felt like I could breathe again. Now I feel myself slipping back down. I always knew it wasn't going to all be uphill but I hate falling again. I'm stuck in dead end job after dead end job because I don't know where I want to be I've tried careers councilling, I've tried just giving things a go. I feel stuck. I feel incapable. I feel stupid. I want to make people happy in any way that I can. All that I have done this year is put a strain on everybody I love. I miss my family and I miss the way things used to be. Today I could hardly move because I was so exhausted. It was my first day off in a while and I should of used it constructively but instead I sat and stared at a wall. I'm frustrated with myself and yet I can't seem to force myself to do anything. I don't know what to do

Leoj I just don't know anymore.
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I don't know where to begin. For the last year or so I feel as though I have been a lot sadder. It all started with the loss of some of my friends from school and although I made new ones I don't feel like there always there for me, and I just hate m... View more

I don't know where to begin. For the last year or so I feel as though I have been a lot sadder. It all started with the loss of some of my friends from school and although I made new ones I don't feel like there always there for me, and I just hate my school in general. Not only this but I'm the type of person who I guess you can say is sensitive, every time someone talks crap about me or makes fun of me I just soak it up and it really hurts me, to the extent where it will be on my mind for the rest of the night. i don't often tell people this however as it would just make me appear as though I am a weak male, even though I know I am. Recently my whole attitude has changed towards my family I sometimes feel as though I'm hated. I'm always getting yelled at and screamed at and lately I've just been snapping back cause I just don't know what to do anymore. This can result in me being hit sometimes or even just more abusive comments. I work 6 days a week just to escape all of this even though I'm trying to balance it with school. At work I feel a little better as it's just an escape from everything, but all the comments made towards me there also get to me. It's just gotten to the stage where I don't know, I feel like my life is just a constant repeat of work, school, homework and sadness. I think I may be depressed however I don't know as there are people who I know are going through much worse. Ita gotten to the stage where I feel like I need to do drugs or something to feel happy. Only the other day I went to a party and however usually I wouldn't I just started drinking a whole lot of alcoholic beverages in hope I'd feel better. However even then ironically I felt no change of anything it made me feel worse. I do have suicidal thoughts however I'm too much of a coward to do anythjng. I just dont know anymore. I just feel so alone, I want to runaway. Sorry for the essay.

BakingBabushka I don't know where to go from here.
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Hi all, I'm in a bit of a tough spot at the moment. I've been chronically ill for about 2.5 years, most of it I have been bed or chair ridden not being able to travel anywhere due to what it does to me. I didn't initially tell my friends or family mu... View more

Hi all, I'm in a bit of a tough spot at the moment. I've been chronically ill for about 2.5 years, most of it I have been bed or chair ridden not being able to travel anywhere due to what it does to me. I didn't initially tell my friends or family much because I just assumed I was going to die and didn't want to get close to anyone, plus I also couldn't talk because it made me sick. I didn't have a lot of choice and they were supportive from a far. None of them ever visited me for my 6 month hospital stint and they don't reach out to me personally. Lately I've become more mentally alert and able to start doing a little more so I'm noticing more around me. I've been getting really upset and get in spots where I can't make myself happy or just want to crawl up in a ball and cry for days. I've been diagnosed with anxiety and depression and I've tried talking to them about it but they're all so busy with their own lives I don't get the chance. I don't really know what to do anymore, besides my immediate family I don't have anybody checking on me or visiting me. I'm scared one day I'm going to get into one of my bad places and never come out of it because I feel completely alone and sometimes wonder if they would actually notice if I checked out for a few days. I don't like asking for help and talking about my personal life but I can't keep watching them all be best friends and I'm at home crying myself through another week alone. Does anyone have any advice as to how I can get my friends to help me or actually care?