A little help?

[Brokenvlogger]

Hi there everyone. My name is Brokenvlogger. I've just joined here for some help with my situation. I believe I have depression and have told my dad about it. I've kind of stopped making an effort in school and haven't been going too much as I'm scared I'll break down in front of others. It's not really as simple as "Your friends and family will always be there and are happy to help you, they don't care if you cry." It feels different and idk. Also, I've been in bed for a lot lately and my boyfriend is wrapped up in the hurricanes in Texas. He hasn't contacted me for around a month and I'm quite worried. Our relationship is long distance and he is the only person I feel like I can talk to about this stuff. Now we're cut off from each other and I need a plan B. Help?

[geoff]

hello Brokenvlogger, I'm really sorry for a couple of reasons, firstly for the depression you are struggling with and secondly which maybe the major cause is that your boyfriend is caught up in the hurricans over in Texas.
What I would like you to do is google this 'contact for people with friends in hurrican texas', this may give you the answers you want, and secondly please ask your dad to take you to see the doctor, this should be a nessarity.
It's true that friends and even family will help you to begin with, but when you cry they don't know what to do, or what to say, simply because they don't understand what depression is or how to cope with it.
Both of these are important to do and I really hope that your boyfriend is safe, and would like to know if you're up to it. Geoff.

[romantic_thi3f]

Hi Brokenvlogger,

Welcome to the forums and thanks for your post.

Sounds like there's a lot going on for you at the moment and I'm sorry that you're struggling.

Just before I jump in though, can I ask what happened when you talked to your Dad about your depression? What was he like? I agree with Geoff in that it would be great to have a chat with your Doctor about it or look at getting some help. There are sometimes counsellors in school that can help out too which might be an option if you're open to that.

I'm not entirely sure what you mean by the 'your friends and family' comment - is that because you don't feel like they want to be there for you? Some people like to talk about what's going on with their friends and family; other's hate it, and other's don't have friends and family to talk to about it. Some friends and family are supportive; other's aren't. It's all okay. It can be a bit cliche to say sometimes because everyone is so different and not everyone can get wrapped up in support.

Sorry that your boyfriend isn't there for you at the moment; I can imagine it would be quite scary not hearing from him knowing there's a Hurricane around. I did have a quick look online and found this -

http://www.newyorkupstate.com/weather/2017/09/hurricane_irma_here_are_some_ways_to_find_out_if_people_in_storms_wake_are_safe.html

You can go to the direct address of where he is and also enter his phone number. Hopefully this helps, but if it doesn't try to keep in mind that there are power outages everywhere and a lot of people have entered shelters/gone above ground etc, so as unfortunate as it is there might not be a way to know for a little bit.

Hope this helps,

[Jessicatherese94]

Hi Brokenvlogger, I'm sorry to hear you're going through a hard time. How did your Dad respond when you talked to him? Do you have any other family members or friends that you could talk to about how you're feeling? Don't forget that you're never alone and there is always someone to talk to, I've personally found the Kids Helpline to be extremely helpful to ring and have a chat to. If you're having a hard time you can talk to your GP and they can refer you to a psychologist. Are you friends with any of your boyfriends friends or family who could confirm if he's okay and available to talk? That might really alleviate some of your anxiety, knowing what's going on with him. Hoping to hear from you soon.