Xmas 2023 not always a happy time

[Paw Prints]

Hello everyone,

I decided to start this thread as another member couldn't find a place to share how Xmas time felt for her. There are many of us I'm sure for whom the Xmas period is a difficult time & not the jolly time that media & even those about us expect us to find it.

I stopped doing Xmas back in the late 1990s as the family gatherings had become unbearable. I didn't see then & I still don't today why we force ourselves to try to fit into a narrative of happy families/joyful feelings when the truth is so very different for many of us.

I still get made to feel as though I'm some how strange for not "doing Xmas" & for spending the day alone at home. I'm sure I'm not the only one.

So this is a space for those who find the Xmas/New Year period difficult for whatever reason... to vent, share or simply let out whatever feelings this time of year brings up.

Paws

[Ggrand]

Hello Dear Paul and everyone,

Merry Christmas, wishing you all a very peaceful day…

Paul I’m deeply sorry your beautiful mum wasn’t allowed to watch the Christmas Carols last night….that’s so not fair, I watched some of it and they were sending a message of love, hope and peace….my heart is sad for your mum…

Maybe today Dear Paul, if you’re “allowed” to, sit quietly with your mother and play some beautiful Christmas Carols, while watching a gently burning scented candle and let her feel that unconditional and deep love you have for her, you’re a very caring, loving and beautiful son…and person….I wish only the best this year for you after a very sad and traumatic year this has been for you….hugs, love and care Paul..

Thank you mmMeKitty, Christmas was a very sad time for my children and myself…even though I don’t physically see my children or grandchildren on Christmas, thanks to the invention of internet I can FaceTime them and chat to them….see the happiness my children are having and giving my grandchildren….

May the angels of heaven and our wonderful universe bless everyone of you today…🎄🤗🤗💜💕💙… you’re all very special and beautiful people in my life..

Grandy..

[Moonstruck]

Thank God it's over!.............

[Ggrand]

Hello everyone,

All those weeks of a huge commercialised build up for Christmas Day….making people feel like they need to be happy and what about those commercials of happy families sitting around a huge table full of food, smiling, laughing, opening gifts…when it’s not like that for lots of people….

Yes Dear sweet Moon…I agree, I am pleased that it’s over with….at least for another year…we will have 11 months of no mention of Christmas…

Enjoy your day everyone….We did it!..

Hugs, love and care everyone…💕🤗🦋..

Grandy..

[yours_truly]

Hey pawprints and everyone!

I find Christmas every year to be so unfortunately disappointing. I expect so much love and each year I am met with the difficult truth, that it just doesn't happen. I am surrounded by people who claim to love me and by those who do, but can't be bothered to show so. I suppose it is my fault for being so desperate for any kind of validation, but really I cannot be blamed for expecting the bare minimum. 

They take photos by themselves and post like they are so happy, but it's not the true situation. It's difficult to accept that these people are supposed to be family, but I have to hold on to myself. Sometimes being there for yourself is more important than trying to be there for others. Don't let others keep you down. Because of that I don't really find Christmas important and don't exactly enjoy the festivities. Hence, why this period is always so difficult.

This years Xmas lesson I suppose,

Yours_truly