Hi - I've just joined this forum today after searching for counsellors, boards, forums, etc online. I've been married for 30 years, our kids are grown, but 2 still live with us. Simply put, I've had enough. I've had enough of being left to clean up after them all, of always being asked for help, of being ignored, of always being the peace keeper, of being the 'go between', of always putting myself to the back of the pack. My husband works, but has the attitude of 'home is for resting'. He won't help out around the home, and wont do the heavy, outside jobs that are just too much for me. He says he will - but he doesn't. I'm tired of waiting around for months for one simple job to be done. I've hired a gardener and sometimes a handyman to get things done, but we don't have much money so I can't do it all the time. I am very unwell, and I fear that as my illness progresses, I'll have no one to look after me. They really are all that selfish. I need to leave, and I need to get the help that I need going forward. As I'm not working at the moment, where do I start? How can I leave with no home to go to? I don't have any other family - parents passed away and there's no one else. I've applied for jobs and I did have a receptionist job temporarily; but finding work at my age is so difficult! Any suggestions as to where to start?
