Venting

[Allbymyself]

I just need somewhere to vent I suppose. I have been a single mum and broke for the past 5 years. I am doing everything I can think of to change my financial status. I’m working, I go to school to try and get a better paying job, But I really haven’t gotten anywhere yet. I am struggling to maintain energy and motivation to keep going and most days all I want to do is stay in bed and away from everyone and everything. Yet at the same time I feel so incredibly lonely. I have a few friends but I feel like I don’t connect with them and any conversations we have are all about them and I’m just there to listen. It’s like I’m not even there really. I’ve tried dating but it seems that now I’m a single mum it’s like I’m used goods. I just feel so stuck and alone and I just don’t know what the point is in living anymore. I wouldn’t say that I’m suicidal or anything though. I’m terrified of dying and I love my kids and wouldn’t ever do that to them but at the same time what is the point.

[PamelaR]

Hi Allbymyself and warm welcome to our community

It's great you have found your way here to our forums. I'm just wondering if you've seen anyone, e.g. your gp or a health professional. From what you've said it sounds like a visit to your GP would be a good idea. To talk about how you're feeling and how difficult it is to get out of bed.

Talking is always good to help get through the difficult times. Being a single mum and being broke is 'hard work'. You don't need to do this all on your own. It's okay to reach out. There are many services available out there. To me, you are very hard on yourself. Working, studying, being a mum, managing the household - wow, I'm tired just talking about it. Not surprising you have little energy. I'd have a guess and say your sleeping pattern is also in need of attention.

You're not alone Allbymyself. Have you had a browse through our forums to find posts from people in a similar situation as yourself? There are many who are experiencing the same as you. It's normal. Think about doing a search in our website for keywords, e.g. single mum. You may surprise yourself how many there are.

Hope some of this helps.

Kind regards

PamelaR

[Yes_that_Pat]

Never underestimate the power of a good vent. If its just one post, or a thousand - venting is a great way to just get those thoughts out there. Vent as much as you need.

[Am_I_being_unreasonable_]

Hi Allbymyself, it sounds like you are doing everything you possibly can for your family. I commend you. Now you need to look after yourself. I also suggest you go to your doctor and get a referral to someone who might be able to help you, eg a psychcologist. I have recently seen a female psych who was very helpful. Sometimes just having someone listen helps so much. I'd also suggest talking to where you are going to school, they may have counsellors who could help or someone who could look at your career path and advise any changes that might help. With your friends, give them a call and ask for help, they may be unaware of your problems and be ready to listen. Give them a chance. Good luck, I hope things improve for you.

[geoff]

Hello Allbymyself, thanks for letting us know what your situation is like at the moment, and I too am very sorry that you feel this way.

With your financial circumstances it’s not just about how much money you make, or how much money you save, it's more as if you are able to change your thinking in order to develop positive habits.

If you see something that you feel you want to buy, then try to resist the purchase,go home and think about it, then you will realise that you don’t want, easier said than done.

I know that you are studying as well, so are you close to finishing it, or perhaps just concentrate on working.

When we feel lonely it tends to show in our face, how and what we have to say so it displays our personality, so our friends are wary to approach us, unless they want to help us.

Can you get the 'mental health plan' from your GP, this entitles you to 10 free Medicare paid sessions per year to see a psychologist, and if you are able to click on 'The Facts' at the top of this page, you'll see K-10, it's a test for depression, if you can do it several times, not straight after the after, but different times, then take this with you to your GP and psych.

Hope to hear back from you.

Geoff.