So scared to start. No one has ever noticed.

[Escapefree]

I feel like im here because I am the invisible person who helps every one. I actually dont know how Im suppose to feel or if I am allowed to ask for help. I have come to this disorientated zone of are you allowed to talk about your feelings because noone wants to listen. My husband either gets aggressive or pretends its not happenning. My favourite is snap out of it. I guess I want to know what am I allowed to ask of people or is that an inconvenience amd keep it shut down

I do not know what is normal.

Thanks for listening.

[CMF]

Hi Escapefree,

welcome, I'm glad you came to the BB forums and were brave enough to post. I sense sadness in your post. You can speak freely here and ask for help, guidance, information, support. No one here will judge you or tell you to snap out of it. You are just as important as anyone else and so are your feelings and your thoughts. So yes, you can talk about your feelings and yes you are allowed to ask for help.

What is it that's happening in your life at the moment? What are these feelings that you would like to talk about?

You are not invisible here and you are not an inconvenience.

Please post back and tell us a little more about what you are going through.

cmf x

[White_Rose]

Dear Escapefree

Hello and welcome to Beyond Blue. It's great that you have found your way here and told us something of what is troubling you. I used to feel that I didn't know what to say, what was my role, how do I express my feelings and am I allowed to do that without my husband ignoring me.

In general we are all allowed to ask for help and have a right to be listened too. We keep quiet when we are afraid to speak for whatever reason. Obviously it is no use to ask your husband for assistance. Do you have any family or friends around who you can talk to? Keeping everything bottled up will lead to you blowing up, so to speak, because you are holding in so much pain and anxiety.

If there is no one to talk to then have a chat with your GP and ask for a referral to a person or group that can help you learn to be more confident about your actions. becoming confident and speaking out is not something we learn in one night. It will take time, so don't expect it will happen overnight.

Meanwhile, come here and talk with the BB people. We don't bite. It can be very helpful when others tell their experiences and you can see how similar they are to yours. So browse the web site and when you find the store of information take a good look. You can download this material or send for hard copies.

Mary

[MsPurple]

HI Escapefree welcome to the forums 🙂

You sound really down and you feel like no one notices and cares. I want to tell you that we do here and you will not be invisible. We are all in the same boat. We come her to get support and also support others. Here you can vent about anything. There are some rules about how we talk on the forums (e.g. no swearing and not going into details with medications, gotta keep that to the professionals). so read the rules if youre not too sure about them.

[MsPurple]

sorry I accidently pressed send too early. Sorry to hear you don't feel supported and you give but never get it back. Does your husband understand anxiety and depression. Maybe you should show him some youtube videos to help him understand. He needs to understand that this is not your fault. No one would choose this. It is horrible and it can suck the life out of you. What would you like to talk about on here?

I also wanted to add that if you need to talk to someone now you can call 1300224636, they can talk anytime any day. You can also chat online with someone on here during certain times.

Look forward to seeing you on the forums

[Sharny]

Hi Escapefree,

Welcome to the forum and I'm sorry to hear you've been feeling like no one listens. I'm not exactly sure what is going on in your life at present but would like to let you know that if you should wish to chat here and feel comfortable to do so then I'd encourage you to. You are indeed allowed to express feelings and be heard. There are lots of people on the forum who you can talk with to open up if you'd like to, many of whom are experiencing problems in life.

Please know you are not alone.

Sharny.