Snappy & Cranky at Xmas

[Tozzy]

I always get cranky at Xmas. Everyone & everything annoys me & I become a person I do not even like. I am snappy with people that I could communicate with in a much more positive way but the annoyance gets the better of me. Not very nice to be like this at Xmas...

[Katyonthehamsterwheel]

Welcome to the forums Tozzy. Sorry you're having this experience. I'm wondering if you can pinpoint what it is that makes you feel this way at Xmas? It can be a difficult time for many people.

[Tozzy]

Thank you Katyonthehamsterwheel. I think you are right that Xmas is difficult for many more people than just myself. Hard to work out what triggers it as it is complex and multiple factors work together that I may not even be aware of. I just wish I could be less annoyed & did not resent having to interact with people in a physical space.

[Tay100]

Hi Tozzy

Welcome to the forum, we hope you find some of the help you are looking for. You and Katyonthehamsterwheel are right- many factors can go into this and identifying triggers can be hard. Have you always struggled with this? Is there anything you find helpful, even a little bit? We could perhaps build up from there, if you like.

Tay100

[Tozzy]

Thanks Tay100.

Xmas has always been a struggle & not been a positive experience. I will see if I can think of something that has helped in the past or might work this year...

[Tay100]

Hi Tozzy,

You are totally right- Xmas can be an eternal struggle for some- but things can also look up if we put the work in to do that self-growth. It's great to hear that you're interested in reflecting and working out on some potentially positive foundations- let us know what you come up with and we brainstorm from there.

Tay100

[quirkywords]

Tozzy

many people feel about Christmas the way do you . Support lines are busy with people wanting help.

I like the way you realise you have a problem with Christmas and you are prepared to try and change the way it makes you feel .

It would be helpful if you could do something that you liked .

Tay thanks for your suggestions .

[Tozzy]

Thanks for your kind, supportive words. It was not so bad after all. I stayed home alone (partly due to Covid) but a neighbour came across with a small gift & other people had extra time from all the online communication I saw so was ok. Am working on some new year resolutions(hopefully ‘keepers’) so I feel less alone. Life is full of changes & people come into & go out of our lives for understandable reasons. We all need to adjust. Thanks for giving me a forum to renew my awareness of that. 😊

[Tay100]

Hi Tozzy

I'm glad that the forums gave you some clarity and helped you adapted to lives challenges and changes- it sounds like Christmas Day was ok as you say, and you'll have to let us know how the New Years Resolutions go!

Tay100

[Guest_4643]

Hi Tozzy. I get that way aswell, special events such as Christmas aren't easy for everybody, myself included. Thinking of you.