Self introduction

[xmin]

Hi there, 

I've never been on a forum like this, so here goes. I have anxiety and depression, and was also recently diagnosed with borderline. I also just exited a relationship so I'm more vulnerable than usual. Hoping to chat to people and read up on ways to manage my mind. 

[geoff]

dear Xmin, nice to hear from you, and from you have said is always a vDo you have any coping ery difficult situation to break up a relationship, as
I personally know how you feel, after our 25 year marriage was dissolved by my wife who wanted to divorce me.
Can I ask whether or not you have any friends or family who are able to help, I only ask this because by having depression and
anxiety has it been a caused from this breakup or whether you had it before.
This just helps us to know the actual circumstances, because with me I had been depressed for a long time before my wife
decided to divorce me.
Hope to hear back from you. Geoff.

[xmin]

Hi geoff, thanks for your response. I would say I haven't had much family support, as I am not close to my family. They were unaware of my relationship, and also my anxiety and borderline. I have been able to see who my closest friends are from who I felt comfortable and willing to tell, and who helped me out. I have been depressed for about a decade, so it's been there the whole relationship. I'm sorry to hear about your long marriage being broken up, may I ask whether your depression/anxiety were a big part of that? 
xmin

[geoff]

dear Xmin, it may seem to be hard to know who your friends are, but it's them who leave you and don't make any more
contact with you, but that doesn't stop you from reaching out and telling them of your situation, desperately hoping
they will support you, but only to be heartbroken when you get no response.
With family support there could be reasons for this which I'm not going to even mention why.
My wife (ex) told me that as I was self medicating with alcohol which she hated and her realising that she could not
help me any more with my depression that it was time for her to go.
By this time both our sons were living in Melbourne 2 hours from where I was living, so the house had to be sold and
everything split up between the two of us.
The house we lived in was a property on acreage, but once it was sold it brought me out of debt, and once I started
living by myself, that's when my depression began to lift, but I am not blaming my wife for my depression, it's just
because of circumstances, one being getting out of debt.
Now I only drink socially and have overcome this demon that I had for so long, although I still have relapses which
only last a few days.
Geoff. x