Obsessive thinking, and a bad day

[Lis_P]

Hi there

It has been a long time since I’ve posted. I seem to have found myself in an obsessive cycle of thinking, which relates particularly to one person. I feel like my life won’t have any meaning unless that person is in my life, and today they blocked me on Facebook. I hadn’t been harrasssing them with contact or anything, in fact I had only sent one message to them in 2 months. They had just returned from overseas after being away for 2 months, and I ran into them at the beach on the day they returned. It had already been a bad day for me and I wasn’t in a good state when I bumped into them, so I probably did seem to be acting strangely. I messaged them the next day to say it had been good to see them, and apologised for not having asked about their trip. They didn’t respond, and 2 days later they blocked me.

I now feel very confused and upset, and I know I won’t get any explanation from them because they obviously don’t want anything to do with me. I’m bound to bump into them again and I feel anxious about that, and am obsessing over what I did or didn’t do to cause this.

I had really liked this person too.

[jess334]

Hi Lis P,

Welcome back to the forums.

I'm sorry this has happened to you. I've been blocked on Facebook by people I thought were friends and it really hurts. Especially if you dont know why.

I think the way you have responded is really mature. Instead of pushing them and trying to make contact in other ways you have accepted their decision.

I also think obsessively about 'what if' scenarios sometimes. I think I mostly want to have everything planned out. Unfortunately its usually impossible to do. I've been trying to use mindfulness instead. Focusing on the now instead of the past or the possible future.

Have you tried mindfulness before? The smiling mind app is a great place to start.

kind thoughts Jess