hello Ant, I'm sure that how you are feeling is certainly how others feel, however that doesn't mean that each and everyone of you does have problems which are so important to yuou and causing a great deal of stress, which I'm sorry for, and these are the times when all you want to do is talk to people who have been through exactly the same as you, and that's good.
What is happening is that you are locking yourself away rather than sitting down with your wife and discussing the main issues, I know that sometimes this won't work out the way you would have expected it to, and could result in an argument, which then isolates you even further.
Nobody can avoid problems, they always have to happen, you can't escape them, only try and learn on how to cope with them, easier said than done, because a decision may need your wife to agree or it coud be vice-versa.
What may seem to be your main problem is your job and what is going to happen and how will you cope, while your kids may have issues, some you know of, and some you don't, but parents can only watch out for them and make sure they don't take that rotten path which may lead them to, this is what parents always fear, and your wife has her own problems, and please don't worry that's how I felt even when I was travelling along pretty well.
The severity of these problems I don't know about, but perhaps they aren't going along as you would hoped them to and that's why you're posted your comment, and the feeling of being anxious is slowly increasing, let's hope we can head it off before it does become serious.
What I would like you to do is google the 'K-10' test, which will indicate your level of depression, and would very much like to hear back from you.
Can you do the test at different times a day, so it will give a general idea. Geoff.
