Not a loser

[ImaMommy]

I have started to feel such deep loneliness lately. I don't have family who are loving kind and trustworthy. I am raising my teenage children alone with no support from their fathers. I manage well mostly however my depression and feelings of despair have been really cruel and isolating. My youngest child has behavioural issues which are highly upsetting. I don't have anyone to step in and say "listen to your mother, she loves you and wants the best for you". I'm trying to break generations of abuse, neglect and violence. This is my first post. I feel like a loser but I wanna stay alive. If someone else I knew needed this space, I wouldn't think they were a loser. I would tell them they are brave x

[EsCee]

You are definitely not a loser because you are reaching out for support. You have a tough gig. I am a single mum of 2 teenagers and don't have the behaviour issues. But I feel so alone and after years of giving them my everything I hate for rude and self absorbed they are. I thought I brought them up well with morals and an understanding of social expectations. I work 3 jobs to support them so they can play sport at a representative level and yet they are rude and treat me like dirt.

You are clearly a good mother as what you have wished foe "listen to your mother, she loves you" shows that you want what is best for them. I don't have answers I'm sorry but know that you are not alone

[ImaMommy]

1. Thank you so much for your response! I really appreciate it. I feel seen and understood. It makes all the difference for me. My hopes are that one day my kids will finally see my effort. You're a great Mum and I see you! X

[Guest_48397969]

Hi, this is my very first time communicating on here, and this not what I came looking for but i read your post and had to reply, just to let you know you are not alone in this. I'm a male, just over 50 (just so you know), one of my younger sisters has two teenage daughters to different fathers, and her now 19yo won't even talk to her or acknowledge her lately, and now is living with her boyfriend.  She wasnt raised in any form of abuse or neglect, except neglect from her father. My poor sister is devastated and feels lost and confused as to why she's treating her this way. So know you are not alone. Love.

[ImaMommy]

I really appreciate your response. My youngest(12) ran away yesterday. Made her way to my mums with no phone. I panicked at first but was able to gather myself. I'm practising how to not take her behaviour personally. Its so hard!