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true_spirit
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I would like to be able to talk to others who may be experiencing anxiety.

I am currently trying to complete my studies in community services, and I am a mum, but I feel I am snowed under with my studies, and now I have neglected my fitness, have let myself go and I only leave the house when I have to go to college, or to go the shops, I put less effort into feeling good about myself and don't really bother with image, and don't really go out and enjoy leisure activities fear of other people looking at me because I don't really put much effort into dressing like other people who have a good self esteem. I used to eat super healthy but now I don't seem to care what I eat. Has anyone got any advice on how I can bounce back?

depressed, and sad.

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MarkJT
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hey True Spirit, welcome to the forums. There is so much information and people willing to help out, so great stuff.

With anxiety, first of all, you can get on top of it and function normally as a human being. You are certaintly not alone in your journey.

To keep on top of my anxiety, i practice mindfulness every day. It is a great way of grounding yourself when your brain starts to get out of control.

Listening to my fave music is the best and easiest way, deep breathing exercises are also very powerful. There are some wonderful apps that you can download that will guide you through deep breathing. Really important that you learn how to do this. If i am starting to get anxious, i immediately start to breath deep and then look at the clouds, stars or other things that i use to ground myself.

Have you been to your GP as yet to discuss? If not, might be worthwhile and then if need be, go and see a psych.

With your time management, perhaps make a plan at the start of the day where you right down what is urgent and what is not. Work your way through the list. Get some locked in structure into the life.

Get back into exercise. It doesnt take long and if you can do 22 minutes per day, then that would be beneficial. Go for a walk or run or swim. It doesnt take much.

Put some time into yourself. Connect with an old friend and go out for tea, you deserve to. Go to a nice quiet place where you can relax.

Head to the supermarket at a quiet time and stock up on healthy food. Re-create those old habits you used to do.

You will be fine, just need to make some small adjustments and introduce a couple of other things.

As i said earlier, have a look around on the forums, there is so much info on here.

Cheers

Mark.

Starwolf
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi True Spirit (nice user name...),

Well done for bravely reaching out to share your concerns. You are under pressure at the moment. Studying while caring for children means there's a lot resting on your shoulders and weighing on your mind. It has taken its toll. You do not mention a husband/partner...are you a single Mum ? If you are, it makes is all so much more difficult.

If you scroll down to the bottom of this page, you will find an Anxiety/Depression checklist in the Facts section. Also general info about both conditions. This will give you a better insight into what it is you are up against. The good news is, with the right help and support, mental/emotional complaints can be managed. The earlier the better, before they take hold and become firmly established. So please take good care of your personal needs. It is easy to neglect those, put them on the back burner while our busy lives swamp us. The mind becomes overloaded and goes crash. We are overwhelmed, motivation goes out the window and we lose track of our selves.

I agree with Mark...starting with a GP appointment would be a good start. There's no need to keep struggling alone. Perhaps you need to go on a mental health plan. Referral to a therapist may be necessary to help you over this rough patch. You've been doing a terrific job and deserve to regain control and reclaim peace of mind. Your children deserve a happy Mum.

Meanwhile, navigating the forums will reassure you that you are not alone in this. It is my pleasure to welcome you on board.