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[Teal_shy_guy]

Sup guys.

ummmmm,. haven't been feeling too good lately. Searched for forums on google.
Google replied with this.
Good ol google.....

Man even as I type this I'm feeling the anxiety. I've gone to health professionals about it. made me feel better for a nice while. went to a support group too. That also was nice while I did it. man I feel so tired and exhausted from the anxiety at the moment. I'm sure alot of you might know that is really friggen draining. I dont thinks its severe anxiety right now but it's been so constant that it just makes me so exhausted. I've come to accept that this is part of me. Recently it's gotten to the point where I think I've become delirious from it. Like I mean I can't help but laugh at myself right now on how friggin crummy everything is (like literally giggling out loud through the anxiety). I guess that's a sign that I'm still okay right? Then i feel depressed.

I do feel down about how things are now and then.

Anyways. I felt like I should or need to vent.

....... So tired. -_-

[BballJ]

Hi Teal Shy Guy,

Firstly, welcome to the forums, great first step finding Beyond Blue forums, they have been great in helping my anxiety as just talking to people in a non-judgemental place can be quite helpful, it has been to me. Many great people on here who all either have or experienced what you are going through. My anxiety brought me here because like you I was just so damn tired of it, was draining me, day in, day out... It took a lot out of me but since starting counselling and working through so many unresolved issues, I am finally starting to feel better. Have you considering going back to speak to a psychologist or maybe another support group to try and bring yourself back up again?

The laughing seems almost like a coping mechanism, it is for me, I use laughing to distract myself, but then I can be alone and down and i say to myself in my head "I am just so tired of this"... One thing that has helped me is i involved my closest friends and told them what i was going through, they have been very supportive and just always see if i am ok, which is great to have that support network, if you don't want to tell friends, maybe a family member. Honestly, as i said above, these forums have helped me immensly, hopefully others will reply with advice from their perspective but I just wanted to share a bit about me and let you know you are not alone in this and I understand what you are going through.

Feel free to post back as much as you wish, especially if you just wish to talk.

My best for you,

Jay

[Teal_shy_guy]

@ BballJ
You're totally right. I was thinking it was my coping mechanism too. It's just nice to hear someone say it. Means I'm not going crazy, reassurance is nice. Also i apologize if I end up not making sense. Or say odd things, I think it might be my sense of humour.I usually try to add humour when I write sometimes. Just bear with me for a bit, I think just need to get it out of my system. For some reason the anxiety I'm experiencing at the moment is to the degree where it's affecting my focus. I think thats why Im doing my coping mechanism because I just hate how it affects me that I find it funny for some reason. Kind of like when you stub your toe and in pain and ask yourself, whhhyyyyyyyy, And laugh.I dunno that was probably a bad analogy.

Yeah that is a good point. I need to get a social life. This is something I seem to struggle with. I guess it can be expected of some one with anxiety issues. you know I was thinking maybe I should go to a support group again while I was writing the part about me going to one. I mean it will help me try and socialize again.but, I dunno. I think I might be making excuses. I think about having to do the exercises and activities again. Im sure they will be okay if I lack the motivation to do them. But I have to do so much to get it started again heheheheh >_<. siiiigh* You know I think there's also the thoughts that there's a possibility that it wont help this time around. It wont change my circumstances.

[geoff]

hello Teal shy guy, well by laughing is a coping mechanism and a very good one if you are able to do it, because what you are doing is recognising your anxiety and facing it head on with laughter, that's what I do when I have an OCD tendency, saying not be stupid.
You have to remember that any social group you go to there will be people there feeling exactly the same as you but have now managed to go that extra step and join a social group, and there will someone next who will follow suit.
Even the most professional entertainers get anxious or nervous before they go onto stage, because that's what they always say when interviewed. Geoff.

[Teal_shy_guy]

Yeah. I'll see if i can get myself to get myself into a social group again. Might take me a while.

Thanks for your thoughts guys. You're all alright people.

[MsPurple]

HI Teal shy guy. Sorry that your anxiety is making you feel like absolute rubbish. I know how you feel. I was in a very similar situation myself. I would sit their feeling so anxious and I would come up with coping mechanisms like laughing/crying randomly to cope. I also struggled to concentrate when my anxiety was flaring up. We all understand so don't be too concerned if your posts can be a bit jumbled because we understand (I am also dyslexic so I tend to jumble things up to). But your post was clear so no need to worry. Geoff and Ball are right, maybe going back to the support groups and being with people in a similar situation would help. It can maybe help you regain your confidence back in your social life. It can be hard being social when anxiety takes control because you struggle to concentrate and gather your throughts when with them. Also lacking motivation is unfortunately a side effect of anxiety, I lack motivation to go for a walk to, but sometimes I get motivated again and I try jump on it. I sometimes book a time that I will go for a walk even if not motivated. You also mentioned you have trouble sleeping and you feel tired. Is this because your mind is full of worries and racing before sleep? Some people find meditation before sleep useful. You can download an app for free called 'calm'. I have tried it some nights when my mind won't stop and it at least helps me get a 10 minute break for myself.

Hope this helps. And there are some great people with great advice on the BB forums

Steph

[BballJ]

Hi teal shy guy,

Definitely a coping mechanise of the good variety laughter.... There is nothing wrong with it as Geoff said. Everything made sense as well that you wrote.... It seems you understand what you need to do to help ease the anxiety symptoms up but like most of us, doing them is always the toughest. They would get such a variety of people in there with different levels of motivation so I am sure they would understand and the social side is definteley one that will help the anxiety... it certainly helped mine. I just got back in any kind of sports to distract myself. I got back into swimming recently... I am not a good swimmer and can barley do a lap of the pool but there is something about it that relaxes me and eases my anxiety. That's why I love sport.. basketball as well as footy (AFL)... such a distraction and running around makes everyone feel good. The social side comes with it... so if you can get into a hobby if you don't have one, i'd suggest trying to find one just to ease you back into socialising and it's always easy with like minded people 🙂

My best for you,

Jay

[Teal_shy_guy]

Thank you every one. I'll see what I can do with the advice you have given me. They sound good.

Best wishes.