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[Mark_63]

Hi, new to all this. Am finding depression and anxiety difficult to cope with for many months now. I do a fair bit of volunteer work as well as work full time. Being around people at work and also at volunteer, I'm ok, but when away from all that I have become a bit of, I guess a hermit. Happy to be at home without people around and don't want to go out as I always feel anxious and unsafe. I keep avoiding friends as I don't want to be around them and feel like I am a spare wheel in the grand scheme. They are all partnered and I am the only single in the group. I don't feel comfortable going out by myself, as I end up feeling that I should be home and end up going home. Even work related activities like the social club, I am withdrawing from as again, its the couples thing mostly. I don't worry about even the little things, like washing the car etc, as I am the only one that has to ride in it and the house goes through periods of neglect and then I get a cleaning spurt on and it gets done. I just feel uneasy all the time and I was never like this. I really want to move past this. My GP was always very good with all this, but he retired 12 months ago and the new GP is not really into advice or mental health and is happy to keep me on the anti depressants, and that's about it. I know I have to find another GP, but I can't even be bothered doing that.

[Rabbit33]

Hi Mark,

Thanks for reaching out. Depression is a yucky place to find yourself, but so many of us end up finding ourselves in similar positions. I can relate to the neglecting social events and becoming a hermit. I still sometimes do it but i end up forcing myself out. Usually, my anxiety holds me back but when i actually go, i end up enjoying myself.

I had a big new years day event that 2 hours before it finished, i felt overwhelmed with anxiety so i knew i had to leave so i booked an uber and went home. When i got home, i was okay. My point is, do what you can and don't feel overwhelmed that you have to be attending every social event. If your friends are partnered, you should try branching out to some old or new friends that are also single and slowly creating some new bonds that don't make you feel so much like the third wheel. It will change the dynamics of going out and hopefully you'll sfarting enjoying more social events. It's never an easy solution, but there's always one that will work for you.

Regarding the Doctor, if you feel they are no good, or not looking after your best interest, then definitely look around for a new Doc. maybe ask the clinic your at, at the moment if there is a more suitable doctor there that works closely within the mental health sector and see if you could book an appointment with them.

Your health is number one here! So you gotta look after yourself.. 🙂

Please feel free to reach out and explain more, we are always here to offer support.

Sending you positive vibes! 🙂

[MsPurple]

Hi Mark and welcome to the BB forums

I know how difficult it can be living with depression and anxiety and just feeling stuck and unable to get out.

I think it is great you have come to the BB forums. We have a really great supportive comunity here.