Nervous newbie

[T_a_m_i]

Hi everyone

Very nervous to post. Am down at the moment and have no self worth. Am thinking I’m overreacting writing this. I think I may have PTSD and anxiety. I know the next time I look at this thread I’ll be happy as. It’s ruining my life sometimes and next minute I can be living the best life ever. I haven’t spoken with anyone and cant seem to talk to family friends or see a doctor. I get teary easily but can work through it sometimes if I get a hold of it quickly. I need space and alone time when I feel it coming on so that I can self regulate. but my husband wants me close and it esculates things and o became angry. My husband is great to talk too and I know it’s affecting him hugely and he does help sometimes. What doesn’t help is being told I’m overreacting and making things up in my mind. How can I help him understand what I’m going through. I sometimes feel like my existence here would be better off without but am not suicidal if that makes sense. I do not want any medications of any sort hence the reason I don’t want to see doctor. I’ve only felt like this for the past 2 years after dishonesty from my husband, therefore have lost faith and trust. Open to other strategies and coping methods. I mainly work on..... shutting out my anxiety and just work on doing what makes you happy and to sit quietly for as long as possible and sometimes if I’m lucky, the anxiety passes. Exercise doesn’t not help as it gives me time to think more. Along with what I mentioned helped, being in a peaceful calm place alone helps also.

So here’s a very warm Hi from me💕

[jess334]

Hi Tami,

Welcome to the beyond blue forums. I'm glad you found the courage to post. These forums can be a fantastic place to find support.

You do not sound as though you are over reacting at all. Coping with anxiety for prolonged periods of time can be extremely difficult and even cause depression.

I noted you do not want to see a doctor because you don't want to take medication. I don't take anti depressants either, but I do talk to my doctor about my anxiety. Your doctor can do more than just prescribe medication, they can refer you to a psychologist or psychiatrist, which can really help. Especially if you start some cognitive behavioural or acceptance and commitment therapy.

Unfortunately most of us with anxiety find out sooner or later that shutting it out doesn't work for very long. Therapy can be a good way of finding other methods of coping with anxiety. You could also try mindfulness, I like the Smiling Mind app which teaches you to focus on the moment.

Another thing that really helped me was reading Russ Harris 'The Happiness Trap'. It is kind of like doing your own therapy.

I hope to see you around the forums.

Kind thoughts, Jess