Need help on how to tell the people I'm close with I'm not dealing well with my emotions.

[Oatsbyfire]

I heard about this website from a guy I was seeing earlier this year who suffered from depression. I focused so much on helping him I didn't see how much it was breaking me.


Fast forward months later and I've started having anxiety attacks. I just can't cope and need to remove myself from the room to try and calm myself down though break out in sweat and her at rate goes through the roof. I've lost my sense of happiness and although I know this is temporary I'm really struggling through the storm.


I don't know how to tell my family or friends because I'm afraid. Though I know I'm sad and today I couldn't even gather the strength to go into work.


I put my faith in the wrong person and the consequences have been painful to say the least. I helped him through his darkest moments and then he left. Now is in a new relation ship and I think finding out about that just sent me down a spiral of sadness thts drowning me.


I'm surrounded by love and adore seeing the people I love happy. I just don't know how to o tell people I'm hurting. I've been hiding under work so managed to remove myself from the social scene without question and jumped off social media months ago because I didn't want to bring anyone into the chaos and believe I could work on this on my own.


I'm not sure if this is even the right Avenue so please be kind.

[baet123]

Hey Oats,

Welcome to the forums and thanks for posting. This is a safe place for you to share your emotions and express yourself. It is a loving, caring non-judgmental platform where you can learn from and support others!

It is extremely brave of you to share your situation with us. I can tell you are strong, resilient, loving and caring and you should be extremely proud of yourself. These are amazing traits you possess.

I am sorry to hear that your going through such a rough time at present but it will get better. Your anxiety, pain and worries are temporary. You will re-discover happiness. I believe that once your emotional well-being is impacting your daily life and overall quality of life, professional treatment/intervention is needed. I know this may seem extremely daunting and it is but the benefits far outweigh that initial discomfort. You should discuss with your GP options including medication, a mental health care plan and overall lifestyle changes which will improve your situation.

It is all good and well to try and assist someone through there struggles as you did to the guy you were seeing but we must also focus on ourselves and ensure our own emotional well-being is in a good spot and we should never sacrifice our own emotional well-being for anything or anyone.

It seems as if you have supportive friends and family so when your comfortable in doing so, tell them how your feeling as I am sure they are aware and getting that off your chest and telling them how you really feel is super important and be a great relief for you. Having a great support structure/network in place and having them there for you to support your emotional needs is extremely encouraging.

You are a very inspiring, intelligent person with so much life to live and so much left to give. You deserve to live the life you wish to live and have the right to be happy and free from anxiety.

I believe speaking with your friends and family and your health professionals will be extremely beneficial to your treatment/recovery.

I look forward to hearing from you again shortly and better times are ahead.

All the best,

Nick.

[TheRealMel]

Hey OatsbtFire,

Sorry to hear you’ve been surprised by anxiety, one potential solution if your’re not feeling like talking with friends and family is counselling. I had an issue that put me through the works and I didn’t want to share details with others and I researched and reached out to a psychologist.

We talked initially by phone and had a session, then I went to the GP for a Mental Health Plan. Best thing I ever did! I was finally able to let all my stuff out initially often and then monthly without worrying others and feeling inhibited about what I could say, plus the government discount!

The difference it made was amazing and I kept going for the freedom of being able to share my deepest thoughts, best still no medication, and I was in a right state initially. I really should go back and boost myself again.

I was prescribed mindfulness 10mins a day, and some other me tasks, intentionally cooking, walking, one exercise class within three weeks, I could manage some of the situations I couldn’t previously.

Sometimes a stranger is good to open up to if you’re nervous talking to your circle and family.

Take Care and hope you feel better soon.

TheRealMel