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Major depression for years

bittermoon
Community Member
I am a depressed person, but I was in a relationship that makes me more depressed each day. My physical health is going down too. After 4 years, today finally I have the courage to break up this unhealthy relationship. . . but I am so scared and sad
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Sophia16
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Hi, bittermoon

Welcome to the Beyond Blue forums and thank you for being open here. It sounds like you are frightened as to what is to come.

Depression can be extremely hard to deal with. Have you seen your local GP about how you feel? They can refer you to a mental health specialist to help you cope with all the difficulties you are going through.

It's really great that you had the courage to break up your unhealthy relationship.

Stay safe and I am always here to chat.

On The Road
Community Member

Hi bittermoon, welcome to the forum 🙂

It's good to hear that your breaking out of the toxic relationship, this is the first step. Things must be very hard for you, I'm sorry but I understand that you feel scared and sad for doing so, the first steps are usually the most difficult and scary, there are some new challenges facing you but don't forget there are also hopes.

Besides depression, I can see the need of taking care of your physical health, which is another thing that could compromise your mental health. I wonder what kind of support you can gain access to at the moment. Feel free to share more, we are here to listen. 🙂

therising
Valued Contributor
Valued Contributor

The warmest of welcomes to you bittermoon 🙂

As you face the courage and grief that comes with letting go of something so significant in your life, my heart goes out to you.

I think when people often speak of courage it's typically associated with acts of brilliance and celebrated heroics. Not often do we hear examples of courage that involve heartbreaking degrees of emotion. It is easy to be courageous when we have nothing to loose. So hard, so challenging, when what we have to loose can involve elements of comfortable familiarity, no matter how destructive. 'I know what I don't want but I don't know what lays beyond that' is internal dialogue that can be either fearful or liberating, depending on how we feel that dialogue.

To know that what you do have is the support of those that care about you here is, I hope, a good start on your path toward change. Being fearless can take a lot of practice before we're able to channel it effortlessly. Practice one day at a time. Btw, if you feel anxious about this conversation with your soon to be ex, imagine this is what courage feels like when it is working up to something life changing. Let it work up and remain true to yourself 🙂

Mark Z.
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hi Bittermoon,

Welcome to the forum.

I can tell that you're really brave! It's totally normal to feel scared when there's a major life change. And a toxic relation is still a relation, the end of it may make you feel sad. But it will help you return to the right track.

So don't panic, fill your life with things you love to do, spend your time with your family and mates. If you feel you need professional support, do not hesitate, see your GP or psychologist, or give Beyondblue hotline a call.

Everything will be better.

Mark