Lonely & no where else to turn

[Guest_2376]

Hi,

I Joined this forum in hopes of feeling less alone and reaching out to people in some form. I am 23 years old, work full time and study at uni as well. The last 4 months of my life have been hell. I have been in a legal battle with my sister, lost thousands of dollars and my house that we both owned and lived in in the process. I feel so alone as my sister was all i ever had, now she has turned on me because she wanted money. Currently my house is on the market for sale, I am in the process of trying to find somewhere to live as I have no friends or family. My relationship has fallen apart as my depression during this time got out of control. I feel like my life is spiralling downwards and I have nothing left to live for, I have lost my sister and the person I thought I could spend the rest of my life with. I dont know how to make friends, i have never really had any and i am extremely shy. I do not have parents either. I feel so lost and alone in the world and dont know how to turn things around.

[white knight]

Hi, welcome

Well here you have a place to talk, share your sadness and we can help pull you through this difficult period.

Losing a close relative seems the worse thing that can happen. However, family and friends come and go throughout our lives and the positive about you and your sister is that you gained knowledge about her that will help you in the future if you have dealings with her. Best to know now than many years down the track. Sisters should stand by each other and have trust.

Have you attended Human Services in your area? Have you tried a shared accommodation house? These are places to try.

We humans face battles all our lives. Keep plugging away on these struggles and it will be worth while. By answering your post it will hit the top of the list and hoping someone else will answer.

regards Tony WK

[Summer Rose]

Hi 

You've certainly suffered some crushing blows and I know from experience there's nothing worse than a broken heart. I'm so sorry.

If you haven't been to talk with your GP yet or it's been awhile since you've seen a medical professional, I think it would be a good idea to reach out now. Depression can be treated and improving your state of mind is really important. If you need to hear a caring voice right now, please don't hesitate to call Lifeline on 13 11 14.

I don't know if this is fair comment or not, but it's possible the relationship with your sister isn't lost forever. Many family relationships break down over misunderstandings and competing needs. Is it possible that you and your sister had competing needs (money for her and a house for you) and things have snowballed out of control but that there is still a bond? If so, maybe you two could see a family counsellor and talk. If you have a mutual friend or extend family member (aunt, uncle, cousin) maybe they could help. This might not be possible now but give it space and time.

I know it might be hard to believe this but things will get better. With the right treatment most people with depression recover. And it will be easier to pick up the pieces of your heart and your life with a healthy mind.

Feel free to keep posting. I will watch out for your posts. You are not alone.

[Just Sara]

Hi and welcome to our caring community;

Just a short response today as I have to head off. I wanted you to know you're heard, acknowledged and validated as being worthy of better treatment and a more enjoyable, simple life.

What a terribly sad and overwhelming situation. I can't imagine how difficult it must be facing this awful reality and the loss that comes with it.

I've been disappointed and shocked by my sister's actions in the past. It was really tough coming to terms with her traits; though when I looked back to our childhood, her spite and jealousy was always there. I just chose to forgive her over and again.

These days I know to protect myself from her ways, though I guess this isn't very helpful to you at this time. You're so young; you shouldn't have to be going thru this at your age. I'm so sorry..

If I were you, and I say this tentatively, I'd write her a letter not unlike what you've written here. In my opinion, she needs to know how deeply she's disappointed and hurt you. Why save her from that truth?

You never know, she may respond positively.

Kind thoughts;

Sez (hug)

[geoff]

Hello welcome to the forum and hope that you won't feel lonely, as already you've had 4 replies.

I can't thank Tony, Summer Rose and Sez enough for getting back to you and what they have said I agree with.

Human Services, Anglicare or there maybe an emergency accommodation provider who could help you find somewhere to live once the house is sold.

Unfortunately even family members will quarrel when money is concerned, it's always a definite culprit for family members to break up, but it doesn't mean they can't be repaired at a later date.

I agree, write her a letter and if need be mention that a mediator could settle any disagreement in a placate manner, this may bring you back.

In my own family there has been a quarrel between myself and my older brother, now that has passed and we get on well together. Geoff.