Hey brokenbrain and welcome!
It certainly sounds like work is a bit rough for you at the moment and leaving you feeling like you’re not valued.
Does your work have a HR department that you could talk to about your situation? Also, I wonder if your managers are able to give you any constructive feedback? i.e. have you asked them to give you specific examples so you can gain a better understanding of what they “think” the issue is? Sometimes people (bad managers) say things that aren’t helpful, but responding with a question to them along the lines of “I don’t quite understand what you have said, could you please give me an example of when I’ve done xxx? And are you able to provide me suggestions or solutions in how you would deal with this situation so I can manage it better going forward.”
It is confronting though having any kind of difficult conversation with a manager, which is why I suggest speaking with HR to get guidance into how to manage it. It also might help to have someone else in the conversation (a mutual third person) so there is a witness to the conversation.
If they are a decent manager (which unfortunately it sounds like they’re not) they should want to support their staff.
The only other conversation I would suggest - only if you felt comfortable with it - is to disclose that you’re experiencing a few personal issues (you don’t need to disclose details) and it would be helpful to have the support of your manager at this time.
We spend so much of our lives at work, it can really have a negative impact on our lives when the working environment isn’t good. I hope that you might have the opportunity to resolve these issues through communicating with your manager, as daunting as that might seem.
Keep strong and don’t devalue yourself based on someone else’s words 🙂
