Inability to fight depression while life keeps sending bad things to me

[ggandalf00]

I'm 17 yo and throughout the last year I was going through depression because a lot of bad things happened and I could not handle those things emotionally in a good way.

My parents and I have been going through a lot lately and I really have been trying for the past 7 to 8 months. I've gone through up and downs very often and that is really really tiring me and exhausting me. Recently a really sad thing happen again while I was thinking that things were getting better: my long time best friend which I've been friend with for the past 13 years I decided to start acting in such a way so that the relationship would Fade Away slowly. Furthermore he decided to join my group of friends which I'm really glad about but throughout two or three months he started to turn the friends against me and he just turn into a enemy. Recently he told my parents about things that I've done that are not fully true and he's saying those things to my friends as well so it's hard for me to make everybody believe me and not look like I'm the one that's lying and I confronted him but he does not apologize neither except that he's the one line. He's acting as if I was the one that is acting bad and said that I've changed and also to stuff that makes me confused. This would not usually be a problem because from my depression I've learnt a lot of things such as the difference between a real friends and fake ones so I will just normally call him off but since we've been friends for so long I was the one to make him meet all my friends today he would have a group is well and all of this turned around throughout the period of 6 months meanwhile I was feeling really bad because of my family situation so now I find myself shortly with my family with my friends because I don't like them much anymore since they don't believe me fully. Plus now he and his family don't want to have anything to do with mine anymore because of the way things have gone but he's in my group of friends so we will have to see each other and that really stresses me because I don't know how this thing will evolve. What should I do because I went through so much already in my 17 years old in life such as my parents divorce, my school failures that I don't even want you talk about and now friends problems.

[Peppermintbach]

Hi ggandalf,

I hope it’s okay for me to extend a caring welcome to you here. You’ve clearly been really struggling. Having family problems as well as having your close friend turn against you must be so painful. I sense your hurt, sadness and deep feelings of being betrayed...

It must have been particularly hurtful to have your friend turn against unexpectedly you just when things were starting to look up again. It must have really shocked you when all you did was try to include him in your friendship group (welcomed him with open arms) but he has betrayed you by undermining you to your other friends. That would sting...

I get what you mean by how this is such a awkward situation because of your mutual friends. I don’t know if this will work or not but maybe you could ask to have a private conversation with your mutual friends (i.e. without your best friend) to try to get them to hear you out on your side of the story. Can I ask what are your thoughts on this?

Good on you for reaching out here. I hope we hear from you again (if you’re comfortable writing again) to let us know how things go as we would like to support you...

Kind and caring thoughts,

Pepper