I want to cry

[Ragthor]

I have cried in the past and it has helped relieve this pressure I have inside of me. Unfortunately, that was with my now ex-partner. Long story short, she used me and my depression and I am now bankrupt. I want to cry and let all of my pain out but I trust no one. I get very close when talking to my doctor about what is going on in my head, but I still can't. I know it sounds strange but all I want is to be a blubbering mess for a little while. For some reason, I think it may help.

Does anyone have some tips for letting it go?

[wantalife]

I believe the pain we can feel, the depth for some it can reach, does not make sense at the time but will enable a strength not all have the opportunity to absorb. B it is a struggle but will make us who we are meant to B

[Cornstarch]

I am so sorry for your feelings of being used.

It makes you feel icky and like a fool for letting someone in, I've been there. There are some very self absorbed people in this world.

Do you have other stuff going on that is preventing you from letting go?

Like, is work flat out and it just isn't practical to let go out of fear of falling apart when you have so much on.

Strenuous exercise gets me balling after I've finished. Chinese/Eastern medicine believe we hold lots of grief in our lungs and diaphragm. I don't know if this is why I find it easier to cry after a run. If you're used to putting on a brave face it's hard to break the ice. What helps me is being in non-judgmental company or alone, away in nature by myself when I know none is around.

And of course music.

Good luck.

[Zeal]

Hi Ragthor,

Crying can help release pent up sadness, frustration and pressure. I cry once every few months for that reason, which I never used to do. In fact, I rarely cried until my twenties! Letting go is easiest with people you trust, as you know. Close family are often the best people to go to for moral and emotional support. Your ex-partner sounds selfish and destructive by the way - I'm glad you are not still with her. It's good that you see your doctor, and that you do try your best to open up with them. Calling a helpline in times of stress in addition to having in-person support is an option. Beyondblue is available 24/7 on 1300 22 4636, and Lifeline's number is 13 11 14.

It would be great to hear back from you 🙂

Best wishes,

Zeal

[Quiettall]

I really feel for you. I too find it really hard to cry. My way of letting go is to lock myself away, or even when lights are out and I'm in bed, pretending I am talking to someone I can trust, and letting it all out. OFten, the thoughts are so deep, I cannot verbalise them, but I can at least release the pain through tears.....it often puts me to sleep and I find I am so much better in the morning.

It is often very difficult for a male, like you and I to really let go...its a cultural thing...but unfortunately if we dont, the grief and hurt can come out in other ways, such as through anger or inappropriate language or behaviour.

Hang in there, and maybe by continuing to post and share your thoughts in this confidential forum, you will find some solace and relief.