Hey!

CoCo5678
Community Member

I am a 29 year old female who suffers from depression and anxiety. Whilest I feel like it’s been under control for quite some time I am really struggling at the moment. My biggest issue is with friends and being liked, I’ve always taken things very personally and while I know a lot of my thoughts are irrational I cannot control them. If friends are busy and don’t message me back etc I think it’s because they don’t like me anymore. Which makes me want to ask if everything is ok. I can never resist from doing this and then feel like a massive burden afterwards. I over compensate by doing everything and anything I can to make people happy and then think they’re probably thinking I’m even more crazy!

Any tips or hints for navigating this issues?

thank you ❤️

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baet123
Community Member

Hey Guest_4719,

Welcome to the forums and thanks for posting and sharing your situation with us. On this site you will find like minded people whom many of us have been through similar experiences or are struggling at present. You can always post as much or as little as you want and we will be here to help each other out 🙂

I am sorry to hear that you are suffering from depression and anxiety both to which myself and many can relate too. I think your an extremely caring friend from what you have told us and wanting to do everything to make people happy is a great thing as long as you maintain your own happiness 🙂

Some things that may help you assess the situations with your friends better might include:

- Taking a few deep breaths, calming down and assessing the situation and some likely plausible reasons why they haven't replied instantly to your text messages etc.

- Discuss the issues and try to be open with your friends so they have a better understanding of you and your conditions.

- Have you tried seeing a psychologist or psychiatrist? They might be able to improve your well-being through medication or CBT or others methods of intervention.

Look forward to seeing you around on the forums and hope this helps.

All the best,

Baet123