Help with my Partner

[Mackey]

Hi I have been in a relationship with a guy for 15 years and I am positive he is Bi Polar but will not do anything about it. He loses it over the smallest things and its like walking on egg shells.Some times hes OK but the older he gets the worse he is I've tried to talk to friends of his but no one listens.He breaks up with me over any ridiculous thing and then he'll go and do something absolutely stupid.He has no money and has just given notice at the unit he rents and has gone and bought a caravan and has decided to travel around Australia and tells everyone its what he has always wanted to do.Last year he was going to china he just listens to what his friends are doing and then decides he'll do the same.We don't live together and I own my own home and have no finances involving him I need to understand how to cope with him as I love him.i don't know are there any support groups.

[quirkywords]

Hello Mackey,

Welcome to the forum. Thanks for making your first post.

I was diagnosed with bipolar over 40 years ago and was in denial for over 16 years .

It is difficult if your friend has not been diagnosed and sometimes the behaviours might be other things and not bipolar.

It must be hard for you watching your boyfriend change his behaviour and hurt you and himself. It can be exhausting loving someone who may have a mental health issue.

Does he get depressed for long periods? Or is he mainly high?

The Black Dog institute has an informative website.

If you can let him know you care and support him, while caring for yourself.

Can you treat him with respect and dignity?
Is it possible to talk with him about his emotions.?

Can you suggest that he speaks to someone he feels comfortable with, like his GP.

Quirky