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Welcome Nay
You've taken the first step now which is great. If you can go see your GP and tell them how your feeling as well.
Its a horrible place your in. I've been there and still battle somedays.
Something I've learnt is most people like being complimented and talking about themselves.
IF you see a necklace or nice piece of jewelry on either a male or female compliment it. Say that looks really nice. It's a opening to them talking and more often than not means not having to think of anything else to say.
As the members come on who've been here for years I'm sure they can help point you to useful threads. I'm only New sorry. But I know it's not allways easy to post the first time so your a amazing person and please let everyone know how your going😊😊
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Hello Nay and welcome 😊
Good on you for asking for support (it is a very big deal for most of us... It can be difficult for a while to post but so worth it in the long term once you find your feet). We'd love to know more of your story if you'd like to practice sharing?
I googled 'interesting conversations' recently to get ideas. It is worth looking into. Bethie's suggestion is awesome and one I found suggested often because it works (by the way Bethie it doesn't matter if you're new your advice is solid! 😊).
My Grandad told me as a child he had a really terrible stutter and was so socially anxious once. So he practiced. And then again. And again. Failures are ok. We don't get better at things without effort. He joined a choir. Took speaking classes. Met up with peers to practice. Phoned others weekly to practice having a conversation on the phone. He blossomed. But according to my Grandma it took time and effort and perseverance and surrounding him with good supports. So that is my suggestion to you.
Bethie is spot on about seeing a medical professional they will be able to direct you what is available locally to manage social anxiety (and also assess you and see whether you may need medication or similar until you have some coping mechanisms in place).
If you find it helpful you can join any of the conversations on the forums to practice. It's ok if you're awkward. I am too. We are all peers with issues too so we do understand.
I hope that you find the forums a help to you even if it's just reassurance that you're not alone in feeling this way.
Nat
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Anxiety can start from when you are very young but then it grows and seems as though it takes over on everything you do, fearful of talking to anybody face to face but don't be afraid of this happening to you, it happens to many people who are afraid to admit, now you have accepted the fact that this is what you're scared of, so it's great that you know what you are dealing with,
As they have suggested
It's terrific you have come here for support and please don't be afraid to post whatever you want to, it's a friendly site where all you will get is support and advise, so please reply back. Geoff.
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Hi Nay and welcome back,
It is such a pleasure when someone returns to reply. More so when they find talking to others difficult.Thank you for giving us a chance 😊
Maybe telling us your story is a bit overwhelming but how about practicing talking generally? Is there a topic you are really passionate about?
Nat