Feeling so sad

[Lp24]

Hi I’m new and have been reading people’s posts and seem to relate to lots of you, lately I feel so sad and tired every thing is an effort, I feel angry all the time, I can’t sleep and when I finally do fall asleep I do not want to get up in the morning. I never express the way I’m feeling to anyone, I put on a act whenever any one asks what’s wrong, it’s obvious I’m sad because my family can see it but I just say I have a headache or something, I do everything for every one but nothing for me. I’m going to be a Grandma soon and am excited, my husband works very hard so I don’t want to burden him with the way I feel, I feel empty and sad all the time, I don’t have anyone to talk to, all I do is clean my house, which has become such an effort, I have put on so much weight and feel terrible and ugly. Most days I don’t want to get out of bed but I am forced because I have 3 dogs who are waiting for me every morning, one of them sleeps inside and needs to be let out for a wee. There have been days when I go shopping and strangers who work in the supermarket will ask me if I’m ok, so I think my sadness is written all over my face, I just want to feel happy and laugh again

[stormcloudz]

Ah sweetheart, you sound depressed. You can definitely talk to us here on this forum, we will understand. Is there something that is worrying you and making you feel down, or is it a bit of a mystery?

Apologies, I may not be able to respond again this evening, but I will check your thread in the morning. If you are feeling really low, remember you can call the BeyondBlue helpline 24 hours a day on 1300 22 4636.

Hope to hear from you soon - and don't be too hard on yourself. We understand.

[Lp24]

Hi at the moment there’s nothing that has happened but I have had things in the past that I never really dealt with, thank you for replying to me

[Ggrand]

Hello Lp,

Welcome to Beyond Blue,

I'm really sorry that your feeling and sounding so sad..My heart goes out to you sweetheart.

I can relate to your sadness as I also struggle with long bouts of sadness, but they are getting better since I spoke to my gp, I'm wondering if you have spoken to yours about how your feeling..,he/she can help you..just talk to you gp tell him/her your thoughts and about your sadness. Your go maybe give you meds but he/she should refer you to a psychologist and a mental health care plan made up for you..I know in nsw you get 10 free visits a year,,please try to go and speak to your gp,and hopefully get started on your wellness journey..

I want to congratulate you on becoming a grandmother.Thats something wonderful happening forvyou soon..

Depression stops us from feeling any joy or pleasure in anything we do,nand it also makes us want to stay in bed. Im trying to do the opposite of how I feel..

I have two little dogs that makes me get up every morning to put them out for their toilet..They are my only companions and I love and so much appreciate having them to care for..

This is your thread to talk here anytime you want to, here is a safe place non judgemental as well as an ominously..please feel free to also look around the forums, and join in any conversation you feel up to..looking forward to hearing from you again. Please look after yourself and let us know how your doing tomorrow, if you feel up to it..

Kind and caring thoughts,

Grandy..

[geoff]

Hello Lp24, can I give you a warm welcome and it's lovely to hear from you, just as stormcloudz and Grandy have also done.

Whatever has happened in the past and you have been unable to cope with or haven't had the support you needed will then create the problems that you maybe having for quite a while, I'm sorry for the way you are feeling.

It could be a situation where you are anxious and worry a great deal of the time and feel as though you can't do anything right and to have a conversation with someone takes an enormous amount of energy, but I hope you can trust us and know that all of us have been through our own struggles, so we want to help you.

We don't want you to be unhappy and please if you want to tell us a little more then some of us may have been through the same experience.

It would be lovely to hear back from you.

Geoff.

[StillKicking]

It sounds very much like depression so you should get medical advice if you haven't already. The great thing about identifying it is that you can then take steps to fix it. Back when i was diagnosed i was told it was a chemical imbalance and if i took some medication it would get better. That's not the whole story. It's much better understood now, and you can learn to have some control over it rather than sitting around mulling over it while you wait for any meds to do their job. Reaching out for help when you're in that state is really hard so you've done well to post here. You often have to hit the bottom before you can push yourself back up. Each small step you take will be a step closer to wellness, even if you slip back. Keep your goals realistic but try to push yourself like you'd push a loved one in the same situation. it's easier said than done so give yourself credit for every small milestone. From what you say it's taken quite a bit for you to reach the stage you're at, so it can take a while before you start to feel human again, but keep remembering what it felt like to be happy with that being your end goal. Take tiny steps rather than being overwhelmed by the fatigue and the feeling that everything's too hard. You'll probably need to crawl back into your safe place often when you start out but eventually you'll see the progress you're making. Keep in touch with people even just at a place like this. Isolation and overanalysing everything are your enemies. It's not an easy journey so it's easy to feel discouraged, but there are a lot of people at various points on the same journey who can help guide you, and it's worth the effort. Don't try too much at once and feel overwhelmed; think about what you can do rather than what you can't. Try taking the dogs for a walk when you can too. All the little things add up. You can get better.

[Lp24]

Thank you all for your advice, all though for some reason it’s going through one ear and out the other, all seems to hard, I will try and focus on going to the doctors

[Lp24]

Thank you so much , you are so considerate, I also hope you can be happy soon

[Ggrand]

Hello Lp24,

Im just calling in to see how your doing when I spotted your post to stillkicking, I was so pleased to read that you will focus on going to the doctor..Well done..

I held of for a long time going to the Drs, but with the gentle suggestions from the wonderful people here I decided to give my gp a try, and I haven't looked back since....I hope the same will happen for you as well...

Kind and caring thoughts..

Grandy.

[stormcloudz]

Hi LP

How are you going? I think it's a good idea to focus on the doctor if everything else seems too difficult. When is your appointment? Would you like any tips?