disassociating rage caused by my neighbors constant noise

[alonelygirl]

Hi,

Thank you for listening to me. I am ay my wits end. I live alone but been sharing my life with with my complicated mental health issues including Ptsd and Schizoaffective bipolar disorder. It has been a difficult few years as I have lived through the loss of my family and 2 very dear friends and I have been struggling big time. I have been in and out of Hospital and it is extremely hard to try to get through this incredibly dark and heavy time.

4 years back new neighbors from hell moved in next door, they make the most unbearable noise constantly stomping around when they walk my house vibrates from the impact noise and it is unbearable. Even with ear plugs in I can hear and feel their footsteps. They have been renovating their house as well, he is the home renovator from hell, every spare moment he's doing something to the house with his music blaring. He has not put decent flooring down to stop the impact noise, the home owner also demolished outside asbestos walls without the proper safety precautions in place. I have tried to talk to them, but it hasn't helped, it has made the situation worse! They get up early and go to bed late and the noise is constant. I have contacted Council, Epa have written to the building certifier about the flooring and impact noise and illegal asbestos removal but I have just been given the run around. I guess that's what happens to you when you are living alone the whole world can just ignore you and bully you in to a total mental breakdown and make you feel completely worthless as a member of society.

I have gotten so distressed and triggered by the noise I disassociate and react inappropriately by going out side and screaming at them to stop it. I hate what is happening to me and how I react. I know I should control myself, but I don't even realize I'm outside screaming until its over when I am a shaking vomiting mess losing it. I feel so alone and unworthy I really don't know what to do anymore. I am getting sicker and sicker and I hate that I'm having episodes of dissociation where I am not in control and that they are constantly in my space grinding me down with their noise. My poor worn down body and brain cant stand this constant mental torture.

Has anybody else had problems with noise causing disassociating episodes?

Thank you for letting me write this down and share, this as helped calm me down.

Take care

[Summer Rose]

Hi Tare

Welcome to the bb forum and well done on making your first post.

I’m really sorry to learn of the torment your neighbours are causing you and your family. I hope by you sharing your story alonelygirl will feel less alone.

Kind thoughts to you

[Sophie_M]

HI Tare, 

We are really sorry to hear that you and your son are being impacted by your neighbour so much. It sounds like an incredibly difficult and stressful situation for you to be dealing with. We can hear that you have tried to seek support from the police, we encourage you to continue to try if you feel like you need to. 

If at anytiem you feel unsafe, this is an emergency and you should call 000. 

If you want to talk to someone about ways to manage stress and anxiety, our team are always ready to talk on 1300 22 4636. The experienced counsellors who answer the calls are there to support you, listen to you and offer helpful advice. 

We hope that this helps, please feel free to check back in and let us know how you are going if you feel comfortable doing so. 

Kind regards ,
Sophie M

[SleepingisWhenImHappy]

how kind you are to write in when your dealing with all that your self !

im just speechless 😶 honestly that anyone needs to deal with this while down

I’m hoping both lots move and you both get some peace !

dad ( rip ) used too say life isn’t always fair ! How right he was !

take care , and as a fellow human I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with this.not fair !

best wishes me

[Eilidh_Girl]

I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with this situation and I just wanted you to know you’re not alone. My husband has cptsd and we live next door to violent people who act as a trigger on a daily basis. We are still searching for a solution but I can share that going out walking has been of some help to us, I know it doesn’t solve anything but I hope it gives you some comfort to know you’re not alone.

[Aminta]

I know this post is a year old but if you're still around, have you seen any improvement? You mention living alone, I spent most of my life alone but will say that having a SO that isn't bothered by it/refuses to help is also infuriating. I think I've rubbed off on my SO over the years because they're bothered by it now. I feel a bit bad about that but appreciate the support.

I've really struggled with noise sensitivity and noisy neighbours for about 5 years, since I first started having chronic pain. Was a bit beforehand but now when I'm in pain and trying to relax, it really annoys me on a moral level, especially if woken early. Things like how it should be obvious that if your dog is barking for hours, it will annoy neighbours. Revving engines at 8am. Slamming doors constantly at night. I too have occasionally yelled at people but only after putting up with their noise for a long time and most of those, I talked to nicely first, sometimes more than once. I even moved to a small country town, at the end of a no-through road, opposite a paddock to escape noise but nope, unless you're literally in the middle of nowhere, it seems inescapable and despite my making so much progress on my mental health, this is one thing that really bugs me due to the injustice of it.

Also, there's a saying that if something annoys one person, there's a good chance it annoys others. I don't understand why more people don't do anything. I personally have social anxiety and yet it seems like I'm the only one who ever actually tries to do something.