Dealing with cheating partner

[Ytnom76]

Hi, first time poster. Recently separated from girlfriend of 2.5 years. She denies but i know she was being intimate with one of my best mates wife. My mate n wife had recently split up and she was helping to comfort her and i think it lead to something else. She was previously in a lesbian relationship, that obviously didn't bother me and i actually didn't click until it was too late. It's crushed me n I'm struggling to cope. Makes it harder because our circle of friends are the same n its difficult to not hear her name or even run into her or the other girl.

[geoff]

Hi Ytnom76, welcome to the site.

I understand how you must be feeling, however, when someone is wanting another person to talk to when they are suffering from a breakup which has lead them into depression, the two can become close, purely because they open up to each other about secrets that haven't been told to anyone else, so a relationship may form.

It's possible that the group of friends may split up and form their own group, to include or exclude your girlfriend that depends on how they feel, but it doesn't stop you from forming your own group.

You may find that you need to talk with someone yourself, just as your mate may also need to do, so there is nothing wrong with the two of seeing a counsellor together if that's what you decide on.

Hope to hear back from you.

Geoff.

[Ytnom76]

Thanks mate. My mate pretty much walked out on his relationship, and i think he's happy with that decision. I've talked to him about my situation and although he's feeling for me he's not hurting like i am. I think the way my relationship ended is killing me the most. She went from seeing each other, calling txting all the time to not talking to me. She always organised time for us to be together then not even replying to my calls or txts. I probably took her for granted. When i hit her up about what was going on she said I'm busy with work and pretty much leave her alone