bullied by my mum

[haskar]

My mum always calls me names and puts all this pressure on me, to look after the baby, clean the house and all that still isn't enough. she is always mad and yelling at me. i cry everyday because of her hurtful words. sometimes i feel like i should just die, what is the point of life it is all disappointment. she calls me fat, useless and even bitch sometimes if i really piss her off. i can't talk to my mum about how i'm feeling because she yell at me and wouldn't understand. even other family members such as my uncle and grandma do the same thing. i always wonder what i did for them to hate me this much. i can't tell my friends because there's no way they can help me and i already told my school's guidance counsler she only gave me a book and told me to write my feelings in it. that didn't help very much. so now I'm depressed and lonely and want to end it all so badly. what do i do?

[Sophie_M]

Dear haskar,

Thank you so much for sharing this with us here today. We know it's not easy to reach out like this but we're very grateful you felt brave enough to do so. We're sorry to hear how much family relationship dynamics are affecting your mental health right now. We want you to know that there is always help available to you. You've come to a safe and non-judgmental place where users give and recieve support based on their own experinces with mental health. We're here to provide as much support, advice and conversation as you need.

In the meantime, our support service is trying to contact you via email as we are worried about you.

If you feel like you're a danger to yourself, then this is an emergency and you should ring 000 immediately. You can talk to one of our qualified mental health professionals at our support service any time on 1300 22 4636. If you prefer, KidsHelpline offers 24/7 webchat counselling to anyone aged 25 and under via: https://kidshelpline.com.au/get-help/webchat-counselling.

Please keep checking in and letting us know how you're getting on whenever you feel up to it.

[iitzMickle]

Hey, I went through a kind of similar thing with my step mum when I was a teenager. She’d say horrible things like “no wonder your mother didn’t want you etc. I spent a lot of time locked in my room and ended up developing deep rooted mental health issues for years. The best bit of advice I can suggest and what worked for me is that if this is an option for you is remove yourself from the situation. If you have a brother sister, friend anyone you can move in with who you would feel safe with and would be a better environment take that opportunity. Also don’t let their words or opinions of you be your own reality it’s hard but you have to try and make yourself understand that the problem is with them and not you and it’s ok to remove toxic people from your life no matter what the relationship is with them. The way I’ve been explained this is that you have a positive plant and a negative plant. If you feed one it will grow but neglect the other it will die. So the people you’ve described in your post appear to be feeding your negative plant in turn making it grow. You need to try and find the people who are going to build you up not break you down. I hope this helps. Stay strong ❤️

[Aaronsis]

Hello haskar

I am so very sorry that you are feeling so sad, lonely and depressed, it is really is so very hard when those that we look up to, those that 'should " be guiding us and supporting us, like our parents do not, that they simply cannot and for whatever reason will not. While it is no excuse here, maybe there are some things that your mum is going through that we don't know anything about and that she too is struggling and finding things difficult to manage. Is this an excuse to speak to you badly and to treat you badly, no it is not, do you deserve this treatment, not you do not, however maybe thinking about why she is doing this to you might release you from the burden that it is your fault, it is not.

I really like the ideas that iitzMickle has shared with you, maybe it is time to find somewhere else to live. Is this an option for you? Do you have some family or some friends that you could live with to remove yourself from this environment.

I am sorry that your school counsellor gave you a book to write stuff in and sent you away, while the concept of writing is very very good, and infact I can say that it has been a huge part of my path to healing that without talking about it and support it can come off as it has for you, "here is a book, do some writing, see you later". IT can be really helpful to you to do a big purge in the book, to write down things that you feel that you might never be able to say to people, to get it out and to get it off your chest, you may never read it again but at least it is out.

We are here for you, to chat and to listen and to support you through this time. I cannot recommend the Kids Helpline enough either, they are so very wonderful and are even available on web chat as Sophie M has given to you if you feel talking on the phone is too much.

Please know that we care and you are not alone, that what you are going through too is not your fault and that there is possibly things going on that you do not know about.

I am so sorry this is happening to you haskar.

Hugs to you

Sarah