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Aaronsis HELP..Am I posting in the right section?
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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried th... View more

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

Chris_B Introducing...the community champions
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Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are v... View more

Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are volunteers within the forums who: Have the time, skills and empathy to support other members Make an effort to welcome new members Are regularly and actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community as a place of hope and recovery. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! As this is a peer support community that includes members under the age of 18, it is important that we ensure our peer support community leaders have a current 'working with children' check as part of due diligence. In an online environment with anonymous posters, it also provides Beyond Blue (and the community) with some security as to the identity of who is posting as a community champion. We ask our community champions to spend at least 2-3 hours a week posting and responding in the forums, but in reality they go far above and beyond this. Like me, they’re not psychologists or counsellors, just regular folk like yourselves who have experience with anxiety and depression. I’ll leave it to our champion volunteers to reply below and let you know a bit about themselves. PS. If this is your first time on the forums and you'd like to introduce yourself, please start a new thread rather than replying in here.

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Guest_025 Trying to Settle Down After a Long Journey.
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Thank you for having me on the Beyond Blue online forums. Hello to All those who have Been Encouraging Each other in times of need whether a short period or long ongoing journey. Well done! Don't know where to start so I'm just Hello. Regards Migrato... View more

Thank you for having me on the Beyond Blue online forums. Hello to All those who have Been Encouraging Each other in times of need whether a short period or long ongoing journey. Well done! Don't know where to start so I'm just Hello. Regards Migrator

Forward_only Imagined isolation or not?
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Hi everyone ! hindsight is a wonderful thing hey people's? I should have done this or I should have done that kind of thoughts pass through my head at times and I wonder if I would have been different if I'd made other choices and been in a different... View more

Hi everyone ! hindsight is a wonderful thing hey people's? I should have done this or I should have done that kind of thoughts pass through my head at times and I wonder if I would have been different if I'd made other choices and been in a different position in life. I perceive myself as lonely in a crowded room too often to count, and it frustrates me how one minute I can be happy with the way I'm relaxed on my own, then go on a downer as if everyone has abandoned me just because at that moment I am alone while everyone gets on with their life without me. Then I blame myself....it must be me right? Then I feel mad and want to pull away even further from people. I don't socialise in person much at all, mainly one on one on phone and internet. So am I really as isolated as I feel ? Or the isolation is more a state of mind? Thanks for hearing me...

Emzykoko Where do I start?? So much to say but which is the "right" thread?
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Hello I'm Emzy and I'm a 30 something chick with ABI, PTSD, ADD, Major Panic and Anxiety Disorders and Extreme Social Phobias. I joined Beyond Blue quite awhile ago but found the whole process of posting in or joining a forum EXTREMELY daunting. Ther... View more

Hello I'm Emzy and I'm a 30 something chick with ABI, PTSD, ADD, Major Panic and Anxiety Disorders and Extreme Social Phobias. I joined Beyond Blue quite awhile ago but found the whole process of posting in or joining a forum EXTREMELY daunting. There are so many threads that are the same topic, the dates are all over the place, I don't know if I'm posting correctly or if whatever I have spewed onto the page has just gotten lost in cyberland.. I'll try to find a "NEW MEMBERS" forum, but it seems that all the "Newbies" are now old hat and the thread has been going on for months.. I'm like a toddler that needs to be taken by the hand and baby stepped through what really shouldn't be difficult - I know that I am exacerbating and making this way more difficult than it actually is but that's ADD combined with Major Panic and Anxiety, PTSD and Social Phobia for you. If anybody could steer me to a newbie newbie thread or one that's patiently friendly with a novice like myself...I'd really appreciate that. I have been wanting to reach out for so so long. Things in my world are dark and have been for a while. I know that Beyond Blue members will be able to indentify, and hopefully in sharing stories of hope and recovery, the site AND the world won't be such a daunting place anymore.

Tryingtoworkmyselfout Anxiety about moving out of my parents house after a long injury
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Hi everyone, I've never written in a forum before and I feel a bit anxious doing it but here goes. I've become very isolated over the past 2.5 years after getting an injury that required surgery (major on my neck) which then developed into chronic pa... View more

Hi everyone, I've never written in a forum before and I feel a bit anxious doing it but here goes. I've become very isolated over the past 2.5 years after getting an injury that required surgery (major on my neck) which then developed into chronic pain, taking lots of medications, then eventually, depression and anxiety from the constant on going pain. I have become quite dependant on my parents over this time as I have gone through a lot of stress with the insurer (was a work injury) and even though I know moving out is desperately what I need to start regaining my independence (I just turned 40)! I've been having panic attacks about it! I just wondered if anyone else has been in a similar situation where they had to move back home with their parents after living and working independently for many years and bc of their physical or emotional injuries (or both) became dependant on their parents and then found it really difficult to leave? I've just bit the bullet and paid a bond for a lovely flat which is close by to my parents which should be affordable when centrelink finally comes through. I have a little bit of savings to help me before that kicks in. It's a financial risk, but the risk of staying home seems worse as I can't move on with my life and get better. Would love any support or shared experiences. E xx

Marg270 My life is falling appart
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I suffer from rheumatoid arthritis. For the last 11 years I have not had a pain free day. My mother is 84 and dying of cancer and my dad has suddenly decided to abandon her care. My family is counting on me to take on the role of carer and I am not c... View more

I suffer from rheumatoid arthritis. For the last 11 years I have not had a pain free day. My mother is 84 and dying of cancer and my dad has suddenly decided to abandon her care. My family is counting on me to take on the role of carer and I am not coping physically and mentally.

Jackyl Desperately sad
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Hello First time here. Don't know how to begin. Hope someone is out there

Hello First time here. Don't know how to begin. Hope someone is out there

Roogirl14 Fee ling lonely and anxious
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Hi. A while ago at work I had a incident which made me gave a panic attack. It was pretty bad which resulted in me having tine off work to reciver. The time has come for me to go back and I am getting pretty scared and anxious about going back but i ... View more

Hi. A while ago at work I had a incident which made me gave a panic attack. It was pretty bad which resulted in me having tine off work to reciver. The time has come for me to go back and I am getting pretty scared and anxious about going back but i miss the children where I work. Is there anything I can do to help me please. Thankyou

UpsiideDown Just maybe
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So if been having trouble coping with life, just everything basiclly, for a long while i haven't really left my house showered brush my teeth. Only started doing things since my daughter started going school, I haven't wanted to do anything, I solely... View more

So if been having trouble coping with life, just everything basiclly, for a long while i haven't really left my house showered brush my teeth. Only started doing things since my daughter started going school, I haven't wanted to do anything, I solely live for my daughter and if it wasnt for her I wouldn't stay on planet earth, iv avoided doctors hospitals since I gave birth 6 years ago. I don't have a doctor I go too. And I'm not willing to go to one to get a mental health check, I feel scared and I would have to call reception too book a health apptm which I also feel embarrassed about, I'm just eating away at myself and I'm unsure what I can do to fix it, I have mental health problems bi polar n Bpd I refuse to take medication for, I don't want a placebo effect, I don't want to feel like a mannequin, when I did take medication I traded it abused it drank it will alcohol. Try to take enough to or few time, since then I don't even take panadol. I'm really lost. How can I change this feelinb

Luna_L_ Young, friendless, depressed
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Hi! I’m new to the forums and I’m here because I don’t feel very content with my life. I feel that my life is quite hard and I’ve been through a lot issues. Apart from having a not so good family dynamic, I’m also quite lonely and I don’t know how to... View more

Hi! I’m new to the forums and I’m here because I don’t feel very content with my life. I feel that my life is quite hard and I’ve been through a lot issues. Apart from having a not so good family dynamic, I’m also quite lonely and I don’t know how to make friends. I’m currently a first-year university student and the holidays have been very boring and depressing because I’m lonely, and I’m addicted to my phone, and I wouldn’t go anywhere by myself. It’s like I’m trapped in my own home. I don’t know how to get help. I believe that the physical and emotional abuse in childhood has caused all these problems and I don’t know what to do. I have talked about these issues to a school counselor before, but it doesn’t get rid of my issues. I’m worried about my future, because I can’t live like this.

Leolion Stressed, ocd, fatique
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Hi there. Been troubled with extreme ocd and post natal depession. My son is now 4.5. I feel like everything spiralled put of hand 2 months ago. We returned from a family holiday. My son was sick and received antibiotics and was not eating or drinkin... View more

Hi there. Been troubled with extreme ocd and post natal depession. My son is now 4.5. I feel like everything spiralled put of hand 2 months ago. We returned from a family holiday. My son was sick and received antibiotics and was not eating or drinking. I felt stressed out. He eventally got better. I have always stuggled with him eating meals. This coupled with my ocd and flu being largely covered in the media stressed me out. I kept my son home from kindy. He went to get a flu shot and the dr refused asking how long he had his cough for - this was another illness he caught. I said 2 weeks and he prescribed antibiotcs. He said he didnt give them lightly. He then went to kindy and had his flu shot 1 week later. 2 days into kindy he developed a really bad cough and woke up at 4.30am every morning with high temps 39. He vomited 2 and was unable to eat as he coughed so much. 6 days later i took him to the dr who gave him antibiotics again and said he had the flu. Firstly i was completely unaware that antibiotics don't cure viruses sorry i was stupid. 5 days later i got shivers, vomiting and generally unwell. Went to see my gp and he said i had a bad throat and i had a uti, he checked my boy and said his was awful too. By this time he also had and earache and conjunctivitis. He was prescribed abs again and told to discard the ones he was on already. I have since become concerned and will be finding a new GP. But I'm having trouble moving on from this and the damage ive done. I havent been able to sleep. Cry all day. Extreme fatique. I have been at home unable to leave the house for a month. Only for appointments. I feel like I'm losing my mind. I have a counseling appointment at a womens health clinic on Monday and friday and gp appointment on wed. Hoping to find one that understands my worries for my son and explain that my brother passed away at 10 month's due to complications of a chest infection. I blame myself as a first time mum. When my son was unwell the first time i had just moved into a new area and saw the first dr available who said he needed antibiotics and i never questioned it. I know i cant go back but my mind and thoughts are crushing me.