Badly hurt by husband swearing and calling me a horrible name

[Heart_On_Sleeve]

Here I lay in bed tonight unable to stop crying for hours after what was supposed to be a nice family day out. We went on a big nature walk, and when leaving hubby just started digging at me for way pulling out of tight spot. Argument heated up, kids in the back sadly to hear arguing. I was becoming more and more pd off with his mood toward me and just started crying. He was so mad telling me to pull over that he will drive. So I pulled into a side street angrily and went to pull aside. I didn’t see there was a big drain on the side which I hit and was a big impact. I stopped hubby was screaming saying he hit his head and he had a can of bourbon drinking which sprayed up in his face. He was sooo angry he threw the can of bourbon in the car and screamed you dumb *swear word* at me. Kids got out of the car distraught and crying in panick. He drove home while I sat having an anxiety attack and crying the whole way. He hasn’t said anything since home, and I’m just sooo upset and angry. Angry he called me that and that a stupid argument escalated so badly for our kids to witness. Feeling rock bottom at it’s worst right now with no one to talk to.

[Sophie_M]

Hi Heart on Sleeve,

It takes a lot of courage to be so open and honest with your feelings, and we are so glad that you have reached out here tonight. We're so sorry to hear what you've been through today, and we can hear how upset you must be feeling right now. But please know you've come to a safe space to express yourself, and our community is here to support you through this difficult time.

If you feel up to it, we'd also encourage you to reach out to our Beyond Blue Support Service, which is available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 3pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport. One of our friendly counsellors will be able to talk through these feelings with you and help support you.

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[white knight]

Hi, welcome

You have every right to react the way you did, but we can always improve on things next time yes?

My wife and I have some golden rules we never break

• If upset eg crying while driving we stop driving, same will yelling
• we don’t drink alcohol in the car
• we recognise when one or both of us are tired and need sleep. We then apologies and admit we are tired

It often isn’t possible to shield kids from arguing- they’ll learn that arguing is part of life

Here is a few threads worth reading- just the first post if each

use google

beyondblue topic relationship strife- the peace pipe

beyondblue topic WORDS- are stuck and stones

Beyondblue topic talking to men- some tips

I hope snippets of those threads help you. I’m glad you’ve found the courage to post

TonyWK