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Aaronsis HELP..Am I posting in the right section?
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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried th... View more

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

Chris_B Introducing...the community champions
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Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are v... View more

Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are volunteers within the forums who: Have the time, skills and empathy to support other members Make an effort to welcome new members Are regularly and actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community as a place of hope and recovery. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! As this is a peer support community that includes members under the age of 18, it is important that we ensure our peer support community leaders have a current 'working with children' check as part of due diligence. In an online environment with anonymous posters, it also provides Beyond Blue (and the community) with some security as to the identity of who is posting as a community champion. We ask our community champions to spend at least 2-3 hours a week posting and responding in the forums, but in reality they go far above and beyond this. Like me, they’re not psychologists or counsellors, just regular folk like yourselves who have experience with anxiety and depression. I’ll leave it to our champion volunteers to reply below and let you know a bit about themselves. PS. If this is your first time on the forums and you'd like to introduce yourself, please start a new thread rather than replying in here.

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Citrine Relief
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After talking my situation down for the last two years and not accepting I am suffering with depression, today I 100% opened up to my GP and admitted I am really struggling. Fulltime working single parent with 2 teenagers that I have majority care of... View more

After talking my situation down for the last two years and not accepting I am suffering with depression, today I 100% opened up to my GP and admitted I am really struggling. Fulltime working single parent with 2 teenagers that I have majority care of, financial constraints and just treading water every day is wearing me down. I have lost my mojo and sense of joy and the negative self talk is hard going. A car accident 6 weeks ago where I wrote off my car was the icing on the cake and each day is just getting harder and harder. I was also afraid of the impact of my attitude, etc on my kids....so that was the push I needed to finally ask for help. My GP listened and was so supportive starting me on medication and setting up a mental health care plan. I just needed to share so thank you to whoever has read this - my family think you should just be able to pull yourself out of a bad situation and not require medication, etc, so not able to share this win with them. Small steps, but I feel relief to have started this journey and just getting all the crap thoughts out of my head felt good

Red_Heart Newbie
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Hi all, Have been hovering here for a while now, and have used the chat section at one of my lowest times. I think my issues with mild depression and anxiety stem from my close relationship with a friend who has PTSD. It’s a little all over the shop ... View more

Hi all, Have been hovering here for a while now, and have used the chat section at one of my lowest times. I think my issues with mild depression and anxiety stem from my close relationship with a friend who has PTSD. It’s a little all over the shop and my forgiveness ( for them) is eternal. They’ve hurt me emotionally a lot and have been very cruel at times. I always forgive them. Today they’ve dumped me again and I may lose my job too. It’s probably also my age and feeling unfulfilled? I feel guilty now for feeling down? I am always the positive person with the smile and feel that pretty much everyone expects me to be happy and positive all the time. I just can’t anymore.

pinkflamingo385 What is the issue here Ptsd? Depression?
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I feel in love with someone i pushed them away as far as i could even by the things i said to them, now there is no point of return .. However the past i have with them haunts my mind, what we said, things we did it goes around in circles in my mind.... View more

I feel in love with someone i pushed them away as far as i could even by the things i said to them, now there is no point of return .. However the past i have with them haunts my mind, what we said, things we did it goes around in circles in my mind. They where never abusive to to me they where nice, kind, caring ect I have been told that i have Ptsd because i can't shut my mind of from the past that i have with them. The way i pushed them away haunts my mind that i can't forgive myself and it hurts that i done it to myself. Its just a never ending cycle of making myself sick with over thinking things. Anyway i have no idea if this is even Ptsd but some things trigger me eg: a song, movie, quote, places we went to can set my mind of i think negative thoughts about the situation. Would this just be depression or ptsd? I pushed them so far away that the law was involved. We got over it and became friends again for a while until i started pushing away again this time it seems to be for good my plan worked but it leaves me feeling dead inside cos of it.

Maree1993 I’m stuck
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Not really sure what to write.. or where to start. I’m struggling to open up to anyone about how I feel on a day to day basis. I have friends I can speak to about numerous things but I can’t seem to bring myself to admit what’s actually going on deep... View more

Not really sure what to write.. or where to start. I’m struggling to open up to anyone about how I feel on a day to day basis. I have friends I can speak to about numerous things but I can’t seem to bring myself to admit what’s actually going on deep down. One reason is because I know some friends won’t get it. The biggest reason I think is because I’m scared to admit to feeling something, and then when those feelings change people don’t think I’m being honest with myself, even though from my best friends perspective it would be because she cares. And for my feelings deep down... I feel like I don’t even have any. I’m not happy but I’m not sad. I’m not excited about many things but I’m not unmoved by things either. I don’t find many things funny, so I don’t really laugh. I will in a general conversation have a chuckle. I’ll crack the odd, easy joke at work or with friends, whatever. Though I couldn’t tell you the last time I really really laughed, Iike genuinely laughed. I constantly feel like I’m in a slump and then feeling guilty because there’s nothing even ‘wrong’ with my life. Most of the time I feel like I want something bad to happen so I have an excuse to be sad. What can I do?

lonelyguy new here
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hello all im new just joined im a single i have anxicty depression i have no friends at all apart from my golden lab kimba who is in training to become my service dog im really struggling here to even leave the house atm i only leave the house is to ... View more

hello all im new just joined im a single i have anxicty depression i have no friends at all apart from my golden lab kimba who is in training to become my service dog im really struggling here to even leave the house atm i only leave the house is to walk my dog or to do shopping most of my time is spent watching tv listning to music i all so carnt work due to a back injury but i try to keep active as possiable im looking for a friendship some company but as iv bean alone for so long will take me time to let someone into my life as its all hard for me to trust ppl to as im a vary quiet shy person to i preatty mutch keep to my self id really like to find gf as in a true friendship with a girl. im not into pubs clubs as i dont like crowds either have any questions or want to know more ask me im michael

Jurani Unclear of future with current partner
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Hi, my partner and I live separately. Something isn't quite right and I don't know how to figure out what that is. I've always been good with money. Not long after we met [we're both middle aged], we discussed finances. It turns out that he hasn't ac... View more

Hi, my partner and I live separately. Something isn't quite right and I don't know how to figure out what that is. I've always been good with money. Not long after we met [we're both middle aged], we discussed finances. It turns out that he hasn't accrued any savings but can't explain what he's done with his money either. He just says he doesn't know. I've asked him if he's had a gambling habit [which could explain it] and he's said 'no'. I did some calculations [without him knowing], and included all expenses that he'd have and even upt the amounts, and even after doing this something isn't adding up? He should have significant savings. I even included $200 on top of the usual expenses for entertainment. He had been single for quite sometime before we met. He has no explanation as to what he's used his money for. You could say it's none of my business, but I can't help the way that I'm thinking. He's had no drug or alcohol addictions. If he can't explain this, how does he expect me to move forward if I'm not even sure we're on the same page re finances? When i bring this topic up, he gets angry and says he refuses to discuss it, then the subject is closed? I need an answer. to me this is important. He hasn't even given me one reason why he hasn't got any savings. Even if he said 'I wasted alot of money on......[whatever], at least I'd have SOME clarification, but instead I'm just left frustrated. If the table was turned, I'd have no problem explaining my spending habits if he was asking me. Why can't he just tell me what he's spent his money on? I doubt if I'd be judgemental. I feel he owes me an explanation. Am I wrong for expecting this? When I've asked him about this, I do it in a calm manner...I don't get angry. Do you think someone should explain their past if it's relevant to the future? Am I wrong to want an answer to this? What if he has had a past problem with money but isn't telling me? I've asked him now 3 times [long breaks inbetween], and still nothing? What do you think is going on here? Hope someone can help? TIA

Valerie50 Not myself
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So where to begin......... I am in my early 50's. Had a great job, have a beautiful house, have a fantastic daughter and have fantastic friends. Only problem is that I have had to move away to remote North because of husband's job. He has always want... View more

So where to begin......... I am in my early 50's. Had a great job, have a beautiful house, have a fantastic daughter and have fantastic friends. Only problem is that I have had to move away to remote North because of husband's job. He has always wanted to work up north and being the good wife, have come with him. It has been 3 months now. I have not found employment and to be honest, only really started looking in the last month. Applications are in! I miss my daughter terribly along with my home and friends and cooler climate. Moving to the heat with menopause.......what was I thinking!! So, maybe drinking a bit more than I should......and had a massive blow out with the hubby. Packed my bags, ready for divorce. next day, couldn't breathe, massive anxiety attack.........and apologised for my behaviour. We had a chat and thought it was a good idea I chatted with someone. So, Here I am. I haven't really met any one here and those that I have are much younger with young families so we really don't have any similar interests. I walk in the morning then tend to hibernate in the air conditioning for the rest of the day. Have a small dog for company during the day and hubby works long hours. Positives are that I'm with my husband of 26 years, in a fairly nice house (air conditioned) and am pretty healthy apart from that dreaded menopause hot flush and mood swings. Love cooking, but with just the 2 of us now, tend to scale back. Did the depression test, I am mild and yes have always had a bit of anxiety when things get yukky - only had two bad attacks that i remember. I think i am just bored and lonely!!

Little_Joe Little Joe
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High all I am a new chum with an anxiety problem, I have been a workaholic all my life an an ex country wheat belt farmer. I am now living in the city and now retired. I do a few little jobs for locals although now because of a couple of health issue... View more

High all I am a new chum with an anxiety problem, I have been a workaholic all my life an an ex country wheat belt farmer. I am now living in the city and now retired. I do a few little jobs for locals although now because of a couple of health issues I now seem to have way too much time on my hands and wait in the garden for a weed to come up (not really but!!! ). My problems is how to think positive about what may or may not happen re my heath when I do realize I cannot change the result what ever it may be. People say think positive but as you guys know it is not that simple. Anyway this is a way I hope may help, is there a meeting place in Perth similar to an AA type where we get together and verbally discuss our personal issues??

Shenpa I don't feel I belong anywhere
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Hello. I'm a 68 year old woman. I've been depressed and anxious probably all my life. I believe the depression is a symptom of not just childhood trauma, but ongoing traumas. I've had so many different diagnoses over the years, and different treatmen... View more

Hello. I'm a 68 year old woman. I've been depressed and anxious probably all my life. I believe the depression is a symptom of not just childhood trauma, but ongoing traumas. I've had so many different diagnoses over the years, and different treatments, but I continue to get depressed. I've tried hard to get well, and feel like I've failed. I live alone and have three grown up children. No other family. I feel very lonely, and any friends I used to have, I've lost. I've never had a healthy relationship. Weekends are the worst. Thanks for reading this.