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Aaronsis HELP..Am I posting in the right section?
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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried th... View more

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

Chris_B Introducing...the community champions
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Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are v... View more

Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are volunteers within the forums who: Have the time, skills and empathy to support other members Make an effort to welcome new members Are regularly and actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community as a place of hope and recovery. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! As this is a peer support community that includes members under the age of 18, it is important that we ensure our peer support community leaders have a current 'working with children' check as part of due diligence. In an online environment with anonymous posters, it also provides Beyond Blue (and the community) with some security as to the identity of who is posting as a community champion. We ask our community champions to spend at least 2-3 hours a week posting and responding in the forums, but in reality they go far above and beyond this. Like me, they’re not psychologists or counsellors, just regular folk like yourselves who have experience with anxiety and depression. I’ll leave it to our champion volunteers to reply below and let you know a bit about themselves. PS. If this is your first time on the forums and you'd like to introduce yourself, please start a new thread rather than replying in here.

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Prada55 Light Headed
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Why is it that when you stress you encourage light headiness this scares me so much.. It starts this cycle of fear and then I'm forever on the look out

Why is it that when you stress you encourage light headiness this scares me so much.. It starts this cycle of fear and then I'm forever on the look out

prathna_a Relocation and loneliness
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hi mum of 2 boys- 5 years and 3 yrs relocated in 2017 from melbourne to brisbane, only for my eldest sons chronic eczema. our move has helped his health, and he has taken off really well. hubby found a good job. but I have lost all my friends and my ... View more

hi mum of 2 boys- 5 years and 3 yrs relocated in 2017 from melbourne to brisbane, only for my eldest sons chronic eczema. our move has helped his health, and he has taken off really well. hubby found a good job. but I have lost all my friends and my family in melbourne. maybe its the age: i am nearing 40, and am finding difficult to make friends. with my business not doing that well, and job not an option for me, I am feeling very alone the entire day. i find it difficult to uplift myself and everyday seems like a weight on my shoulders. i dont think my hubby gets it, as his social interaction is sorted at work, while mine is zero. i really want to know how to help myself. thank you

rh456 Looking for work and feeling low
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Hi All, Greetings from cool, but Sunny Adelaide. Never posted on these forums before...so hear goes. I have not held a "steady job/regular full time work for 7 years. This is because I left what was a pretty steady job in the healthcare sector for wh... View more

Hi All, Greetings from cool, but Sunny Adelaide. Never posted on these forums before...so hear goes. I have not held a "steady job/regular full time work for 7 years. This is because I left what was a pretty steady job in the healthcare sector for what i thought was going to be more opportunity, more hours, more money in the private sector. Unfortunately after the three month probation period they told me suddenly and without warning "sorry its not working out" and ever since then have not held a full time job. I applied for hundreds of jobs, with only limited replies and even more limited opportunities for interview. I had a few contract positions/casual jobs since then but I need some stability (for financial as well as other reasons). I have also had major illness with breast cancer throughout 2015 which turned my world upside down. I was not working at the time and then needed to go on benefits again (at the same time going through treatment). I was feeling very depressed during this time and now looking back wish I had taken action by going to the GP to talk about how I was feeling. To the present time, I am gutted after I was unsuccessful in gaining employment at a hospital which I was ideally suited and have asked them for feedback but I am yet to hear back (again disappointment). Luckily though I do have a one day a week permanent position (this ends the end of july - per contract) and some casual typing from home which works out only 1-2 days a week. Again feeling very low about my worth, but I guess I can count myself lucky that I am still alive and cancer free. Hoping that some time in the future something will come up but feel increasingly low.

Miss_Wendy Troubled Teen
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My beautiful 16 yr old daughter is suffering anxiety and depression 2 years after a sexual assault. She struggles to get to school due to this illness. I’m so scared to leave her at home alone but I have to work.

My beautiful 16 yr old daughter is suffering anxiety and depression 2 years after a sexual assault. She struggles to get to school due to this illness. I’m so scared to leave her at home alone but I have to work.

chef_michael Hi there
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Hi everyone am 38 years old and male and chef by profession. Currently suffering from depression and anxiety but latley more depression and it's affecting my life in a big way thought I would try and get out of my shell and talk to other people who m... View more

Hi everyone am 38 years old and male and chef by profession. Currently suffering from depression and anxiety but latley more depression and it's affecting my life in a big way thought I would try and get out of my shell and talk to other people who might be going through the same thing

DadHubbyITguy migration,winters and work issues
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Hi people, I am a middle aged man, recently moved to this beautiful country with my partner and a kid. As I anticipated, the move has been a pressure. Talking about work first, while I quickly found a job commensurate to my skills, the cultural diffe... View more

Hi people, I am a middle aged man, recently moved to this beautiful country with my partner and a kid. As I anticipated, the move has been a pressure. Talking about work first, while I quickly found a job commensurate to my skills, the cultural differences(I'm a south-asian) at workplace have been more bothersome than the work itself. I have been a super achiever in my profession(in my home country) and believe in working hard and making my way forward. My attitude is not well received by colleagues at current workplace as my opinion and work are not valued and appreciated. Then on the personal front, I feel sorry for my partner who has been managing the kid alone while I'm at work and often I'm too exhausted to be of help when I'm back home. Most importantly, I've been an outdoor person and have always enjoyed physical activities, the winters in Victoria have made me home bound and I feel sick of not being able to go out and in some sense take control of my life. Amidst all this, It was was only through pure serendipity that I found beyondblue. I look forward to finding some good support from the community. Warmest Regards,

Alchemy Injury now in wheelchair and sadness
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Hi I had a workplace injury that caused a burst fracture in my spine leaving me with a spinal cord injury, am in constant pain and now can walk a bit but mostely in a wheelchair, my whole life has been turned upside down and still cant make sence of ... View more

Hi I had a workplace injury that caused a burst fracture in my spine leaving me with a spinal cord injury, am in constant pain and now can walk a bit but mostely in a wheelchair, my whole life has been turned upside down and still cant make sence of it. cant get any help really, try so hard to but nothing, had to reasearch and organise my own wheelchair and then was just left with it and told to look on youtube to use it, can never return to my job, feel lost and no one whats to help me, cant sleep, is so hard to do anything if i get up sometimes and think i can walk ok untill i fall to the floor and feel uesless. i try to do what i can through the day but end up just making my back and legs hurt more, i feel guilty that i can not fix things in the house, cut the grass or take out the bins. my wife tries to understand but i know it is hard for her, i belive that she will not come to terms with it, cant find a chair to sit in that is conftable. now my hands are shaking (asked the GP about it but he just changed the subject), life is so much harder now, i was fine meeting people and talking on the phone in my job but now i panic if the phone rings and sometimes just can not bring myself to answer it, no one visits me from work and it is so hard when people ask how long i need to be in the wheelchair just to be told this is it (3 neurosurgens have said the same thing and it will just get worse), i dont know how to live in this new life (i do try my hardest) but sometimes that is not enuf, everything around me seams to be not working out. and lately i can not sit anywhere in the quiet as i can hear voices in my head (thought someone had a radio on and the news was on) what do they want!, sorry for going on and on but life just cant be this hard can it, why am i the one that keeps getting knocked down and before my injury i helped everyone with what ever i could now there is no one to help me. (i am sorry)

Kira2019 Newbie - just wanna talk to other people
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Hi everyone im new here and recently being diagnosed with severe depression, PTSD, and probably soon to be diagnosed with borderline personality disorder... it would be great to talk to someone... I’m seeing a councillor every 2 weeks but would be gr... View more

Hi everyone im new here and recently being diagnosed with severe depression, PTSD, and probably soon to be diagnosed with borderline personality disorder... it would be great to talk to someone... I’m seeing a councillor every 2 weeks but would be great to talk to other people. I do have a husband but he does work and I don’t hVe many friends that I can talk to about all this hope to chat to someone soon

MBS Don’t know what’s happening
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I really don’t understand, why people make promises, we will help you with the paper work for transition to civilian life, we will help you find a house. I wanted to live so, I could make life easier for my wife and 2 kids, but now I am way away from... View more

I really don’t understand, why people make promises, we will help you with the paper work for transition to civilian life, we will help you find a house. I wanted to live so, I could make life easier for my wife and 2 kids, but now I am way away from work, in a house where everything is a mess. Thanks to Toll, defence, dva for big promises. But I think I have had enough. I am useless, just a burden to everyone. I have done as much as I could, don’t think I can do anything anymore. Thanks everyone, it’s better to go offline now.