Never done anything like this before...

[ElectricBlue]

Hi all,

So obviously I'm new here. What brought me here was the realisation that my mum (and quite probably my dad too) is a narcissist. I mean full blown, psychological disorder stuff.. I've always just thought it was "her" and what she was like but after a massive argument with her (the only proper one we've ever really had) and doing some research I now know why she is the way she is but it's been hard to accept. Learning about it has made me look back at my whole life and it explains a lot but has made me extremely emotional and sad and questioning my whole childhood. I guess I just needed a place to vent and maybe get some support through all this.

My husband is extremely supportive but sometimes it's easier to get a non-bias viewpoint. Plus I want home time to be positive as we have a nearly 1 year old so I don't want to be sitting down talking about sad things all the time rather than enjoy every moment with them both.

Anyway, I could go on forever but that's me. Thanks for this outlet! I'm hoping it helps.

[uncut_gems]

Hi ElectricBlue,

You've come to the right place! First of all, welcome to the forums. Realizing something in retrospect about our childhoods can be a really jarring feeling, when all of the sudden things we remember and were confused or felt one way about are seen in a different light.

It's so wonderful that even in this time of turmoil, you're turning your thoughts to your own young family. It's such a selfless act and reflects on what kind of parent you yourself are going to be.

Feel free to browse the threads, and to respond here or elsewhere as you work/think through this tough stuff! Might it be good to see a GP or counselor to talk through some of it? If not, there are certainly loads of support resources in-person and online for people who grew up under similar circumstances.

Warmly,

Gems