Dear Lululindy~
I'd like to welcome you here to the Forum, a place were if you look around you can see others who have had similar circumstances and how they coped.
I'm very sad you were subjected to domestic violence, it is a horrible life and does injure a person and changes them. The fact you can be triggered would show that you have not reached the stage where it no longer has an effect on you.
I am of a similar age and suffer from trauma related issues from things that happened a very long itme ago (not DV like you) and still find myself triggered and re-living, or at least not performing well, on occasions.
Of course it would be better if there was no aftermath , however by oneself that may not happen. I don't know if you have sought specialist treatment for the after effects of DV, if not I'd suggest the Blue Knot Foundation, who can be very helpful, even if the incidents were a long time ago. If they can assist you to reduce the frequency of these triggers it would be something.
My own are now comparatively rare and I do take steps to not be in situations where they might reoccur. I would hope the same for you.
You know you will always be welcome here
Croix
