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Aaronsis HELP..Am I posting in the right section?
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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried th... View more

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

Chris_B Introducing...the community champions
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Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are v... View more

Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are volunteers within the forums who: Have the time, skills and empathy to support other members Make an effort to welcome new members Are regularly and actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community as a place of hope and recovery. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! As this is a peer support community that includes members under the age of 18, it is important that we ensure our peer support community leaders have a current 'working with children' check as part of due diligence. In an online environment with anonymous posters, it also provides Beyond Blue (and the community) with some security as to the identity of who is posting as a community champion. We ask our community champions to spend at least 2-3 hours a week posting and responding in the forums, but in reality they go far above and beyond this. Like me, they’re not psychologists or counsellors, just regular folk like yourselves who have experience with anxiety and depression. I’ll leave it to our champion volunteers to reply below and let you know a bit about themselves. PS. If this is your first time on the forums and you'd like to introduce yourself, please start a new thread rather than replying in here.

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Jack_Falco I'm enjoying these forums
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Hi everyone, I have been through such darkness this last couple of months and I find these online forums very supportive and helpful. People have been so kind. I was reluctant to write online about my trauma, but all the words that have been sent to ... View more

Hi everyone, I have been through such darkness this last couple of months and I find these online forums very supportive and helpful. People have been so kind. I was reluctant to write online about my trauma, but all the words that have been sent to me have been kind and caring.

steviewonder1987 Anxiety and going through difficult time with IVF. Reaching out
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Hey everyone. I have battle Anxiety all my life. Mostly its social anxiety. Shy when meeting new people. Sometimes hard interacting with new people and places. I have come a long way though. I am not healed by any means but i feel i manage now living... View more

Hey everyone. I have battle Anxiety all my life. Mostly its social anxiety. Shy when meeting new people. Sometimes hard interacting with new people and places. I have come a long way though. I am not healed by any means but i feel i manage now living with my anxiety and worries. However the last two years have really been difficult. My Fiance and I have been going through IVF to have a baby. We now gone through i would say maybe 6-7 cycles and theres been no luck. The hard part too in all this is its actually my fault. Theres issues with my sperm. So you can imagine just how i feel knowing that i feel like i am letting my partner down in our quest to have a baby. every set back we have had has hit me hard. I admit ive cried. Ive been in pain. My partner tells me not to dwell or worry but as someone who has always worried about things i cant let that dwell go. This last cycle we did just ended few days ago. I got upset again of course and i started having doubts and started of thinking of giving up on this dream to have a baby. Having a baby means everything to me and my partner. We have put our wedding on hold because of all this. my partner is now 37 so we dont have much longer time wise to indeed have a baby if you know they say best have a baby before your 40. But again every set back we are having is hurting me deeply. I feel like i just need to get it all out and seek help from somewhere so thats why i am here. I am hoping to get support here to where by talking to others who either going through hard times atm with their anxiety or more so ivf issues it might help me with what i am going through. So if anyone wants to send me a message of support or give me encouragement or want to know more of what going on with me and the whole ivf process i be willing to share all that with you all. Thank you all for your time. Take care

BelleG I'm new here and wondering if I belong?
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Hi. This feels like a big step for me but an important one. I'm here because feel adrift and emotionally exhausted. Maybe it is time to reach out and find out how other people cope? This isn't easy for an introvert like me but maybe it will help to k... View more

Hi. This feels like a big step for me but an important one. I'm here because feel adrift and emotionally exhausted. Maybe it is time to reach out and find out how other people cope? This isn't easy for an introvert like me but maybe it will help to know I am not as alone as I feel; maybe there are other people in the same boat as me? The thing is, I've been getting messages from the people around me that I am my own worst enemy, or I'm just feeling sorry for myself. But am I? I truly feel as if everyone relies on me, but no one actually asks 'How are you coping??'

Shanthan Coping with Depression
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Hello, My name is Shanthan. I'm currently living in Victoria. Six months ago, I was diagnosed with Severe Anxiety and Depression. Since then, I have tried to fight my disorder by choosing all the wrong paths, such as Alcohol abuse. I only did it as I... View more

Hello, My name is Shanthan. I'm currently living in Victoria. Six months ago, I was diagnosed with Severe Anxiety and Depression. Since then, I have tried to fight my disorder by choosing all the wrong paths, such as Alcohol abuse. I only did it as I couldn't afford therapy. Eventually, I became an addict, which gave me a new reason to hate myself. I'm trying to take everything step by step and make myself do better. This issue is global, but we should spread a lot of awareness. Every person I tried to explain my situation has not taken it seriously. I can't blame them as they have no idea what it feels like, or maybe they do, but they are good at creating walls to avoid opening up. I suggest anyone going through with this take action towards your health first instead of focusing on losing something else. Thank you.

Damaged000 Introduction
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Hi I’m new obviously! I’ve suffered all my life with mental health and I’m still struggling after a relationship breakdown with a narcissistic partner 5 years ago

Hi I’m new obviously! I’ve suffered all my life with mental health and I’m still struggling after a relationship breakdown with a narcissistic partner 5 years ago

Chris_B Introducing...the community champions
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Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are v... View more

Hi everyone, Some of you may have noticed that a few of our members are labelled ‘Community champion’ and have a beyondblue National Roadshow bus badge, like this: This thread explains who these members are and what they do. Community champions are volunteers within the forums who: Have the time, skills and empathy to support other members Make an effort to welcome new members Are regularly and actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community as a place of hope and recovery. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! As this is a peer support community that includes members under the age of 18, it is important that we ensure our peer support community leaders have a current 'working with children' check as part of due diligence. In an online environment with anonymous posters, it also provides Beyond Blue (and the community) with some security as to the identity of who is posting as a community champion. We ask our community champions to spend at least 2-3 hours a week posting and responding in the forums, but in reality they go far above and beyond this. Like me, they’re not psychologists or counsellors, just regular folk like yourselves who have experience with anxiety and depression. I’ll leave it to our champion volunteers to reply below and let you know a bit about themselves. PS. If this is your first time on the forums and you'd like to introduce yourself, please start a new thread rather than replying in here.

Suncloud How much longer?
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I'm tired. All my life I've had recurrent periods of low mood and a sense of pointlessness, from about age 8 or 10 . I remember the first one, it struck me so hard I had to sit down. I think the medical term is cyclothymia. After these episodes I wou... View more

I'm tired. All my life I've had recurrent periods of low mood and a sense of pointlessness, from about age 8 or 10 . I remember the first one, it struck me so hard I had to sit down. I think the medical term is cyclothymia. After these episodes I would doggedly go on with the normal activities required by life but the dark cloud always came back, 'the Nothing' I used to call it. I used to distract myself with reading, and I reckon I spent a total of ten years of my life reading just to avoid 'the Nothing'. Being older now, with the main tasks of life behind me I thought this would be the time to dive deeper into the spiritual areas that have always interested me and I could find a way to peace. Maybe I could, if not for these relentless intrusive thoughts about a relationship that ended about 8 months ago and nearly destroyed me. Tbh I don't know yet if I'll survive it. This morning I cried and thought I can't live with these memories. It was six years of drama on and off, and we reunited a year ago with great belief on my part that it would be forever, because he appeared to have changed in positive ways and got his life in order, and we talked about healing each other, and other noble aims, but once we were together he hadn't changed. He was controlling, paranoid and disrespectful and I couldn't cope with it eventually. It ended explosively with him threatening my life, based on some false accusations. That's all over, firmly no contact, but now I'm in a cycle of grief that keeps circling back, and anything can trigger it. I had some EMDR for trauma which helped at the time, but the memories and images haunt me. That, with the periods of nil motivation, and I have to wonder, How long can I go on like this? I have a good son and daughter, both with kids. I help them out where I can. I have a supportive sister and ex. But few people I can talk to about either the depression or the aftermath of the relationship. It seems to have damaged me, - my self image has changed, I don't think I have much to offer anyone anymore, I feel old and washed up. I used to work in mental health and aged care.. I used to paint pictures and was selling some. I don't work now, there's no motivation to look for a job although I need the money. I don't paint. I'm tired of the day to day struggle, pretending I'm okay, that I'm normal, that things are okay. I long for a deep connection with someone, a friend or partner, I feel so alone.

Rose_Tattoo Parenting/Step-Parenting
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I'm a 34yr old mum of 3 kids, 2 older kids from previous marriage and a new little one with my current partner. My marriage was a complete shamble. He ended up being a horrible man who played video games and ignored me so after 7 years I finally walk... View more

I'm a 34yr old mum of 3 kids, 2 older kids from previous marriage and a new little one with my current partner. My marriage was a complete shamble. He ended up being a horrible man who played video games and ignored me so after 7 years I finally walked away (our kids were 3yrs & 18months) at the time. I knew becoming a single mum with 2 little ones was going to be hard but it was the right decision. I raised my kids and in 2018 I met a guy who had a failed marriage also but no kids and we really hit it off, 4 years on and we have a 1yr old together but we are falling apart, unfortunately it all comes down to the way he 'step-parents' my older children. I am not overly strict at all - I have moments but I love watching kids just be kids and work out all the other stuff eventually. I find he constantly finds something wrong, it's becoming draining and mentally exhausting for me to watch. I try talking to him and explaining I don't want him to always focus on discipline and just relax,enjoy life/moments a bit more but nothing changes and now it's gotten to the point that his relationship with both children is dropping and his attitude is 'he tries but there's no point'. They are getting older now & just fight back most of the time which leads to fight after fight and im sick of being around it and/or in the middle of it. I'm frustrated because I love this man, more than I have loved anyone. he is a wonderful man, he works hard, he helps around the house & he just adores his little boy and gets involved with him with everything he can! It'll break my heart if one day I'll have to choose between my kids & my partner because I know I'll have to choose my kids but it hurts because my ex husband showed me what NOT to look for in a partner whereas he has such amazing qualities and that's hard to come by these days. I've tried many things.. I've tried letting him be the disciplinarian and me trying to 'follow his lead' as other forums have suggested but that just doesn't work, I get too emotional when I don't like the way he parents. I've tried letting him take a step back from being the step dad but that hurts me and makes me think what's the point if he won't be a consistent step parent - I don't believe you can go from 100% involved to 0% involved and that be okay. I'm at the end, I feel depressed and shit most days and when I hear an argument starting (daily) I feel like I just go further and further into my shell and lose myself just a little bit more.

Parth Feeling anxious and afraid of going through a divorce and leaving my 1year old son
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Hi, my wife and I are going through an ugly patch in life. She does not respect me and my parents. She wants only her parents involved in all my finance and personal stuff. she bosses me around. How she speaks with me is to always try and get an argu... View more

Hi, my wife and I are going through an ugly patch in life. She does not respect me and my parents. She wants only her parents involved in all my finance and personal stuff. she bosses me around. How she speaks with me is to always try and get an argument out of things. I am so much fed up of her that I feel like giving her divorce but then I start realising about my son. And now I feel very anxious ans depressed

Lemonfunk Bi polar symptoms
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Hello , This is the first time I've ever asked an online community for guidance or help , I have come to belief I am bi polar ... I'm in therapy atm but it's just started so haven't had a diagnosis buy in trying to work out what the hell is wrong wit... View more

Hello , This is the first time I've ever asked an online community for guidance or help , I have come to belief I am bi polar ... I'm in therapy atm but it's just started so haven't had a diagnosis buy in trying to work out what the hell is wrong with me I have begun ticking the boxes relating to this disorder , I tick them all on every test. I know I'm depressed and I have mood swings but the bi polar thing scares me ... and I scare everyone I love with my behaviour . I know drs don't like patients telling them anything so how can I bring up my concern for my mental well-being without getting off on the wrong foot .. I need help and my family needs me to get help .. i appreciate any replies I'm not in a good space atm and just want to get better Thank you